AIBU to send my DS into school wearing jeans because...

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his school trousers went "missing" after his PE lesson and he had to come home in his shorts?

He's at primary, aged 9 and they have their PE bag on their hook in the cloakroom. They take their trousers and shoes off, put their gym shoes and shorts on, go off for an hour and then change back into trousers and shoes. DS says he put the trousers back in his gym bag but when he came back they were gone. Says he looked under the bench, on the hook and all around but no trousers to be seen.

I was met in the playground by his teacher apologising and I was a bit distracted to be honest. I managed to say that they are his last pair of trousers and that he doesn't have another pair and what a nuisance etc.

When I got home and had time to think about it I thought, how the hell did that happen? If someone mistakenly picked them up thinking they were theirs, then surely there would have been a spare pair of trousers lurking about? And then I thought, could someone have taken them on purpose for a "laugh"? The teacher sent everyone down to the cloakroom to get everyone to look in their PE bags. My DS said that one kid just opened his bag, didn't look in and then told everyone else not to bother helping [hmmm]

I'm going in early tomorrow to look in lost property and search around the cloakroom. The same thing happened to a friend in his class and his mother never found the trousers.

Obviously if I can't find them tomorrow I will HAVE to buy another pair but AIBU to do this for one day? I will explain to the school first thing so that they know the reason for my child wearing jeans.

Just send him in something that's closest in colour...whether that's jeans or joggers.

There's nothing else you can do until you've searched lost property.

Just last week my dd came home with someone else's trousers. She was wearing her own trousers, had her pe shorts in her bag along with a random extra pair of school trousers. It was a pure accident and she returned them the next day. Hopefully something similar happened to your ds.

Can't see it being a problem him not wearing school trousers for a day or two

Well one pair of trousers for a 9 year old really isn't enough so unless you are on a particularly strained budget I can see no earthly reason why you haven't bought a pair this weekend - there's still time if you can.

If you honestly can't afford a 2nd pair then go to the school office and explain and they will have a pair tucked away for just this sort of situation.

I think you should buy another pair
Loss of uniform is common occurrence and not the fault of staff
Trousers are pretty cheap in supermarkets

What do you do when they're in the wash?

I think they are quite difficult to get now as it's not the 'back to school' season yet. Which colour do you need? I may have a couple of pairs floating around upstairs that you're welcome to have (I'll have to find them though ).

Dd1 lost an entire uniform once including her shoes, they turned up a couple of days later because someone had accidentally taken them home in their bag.

DS has come home with another child's trousers before now (whilst wearing his own). I have no idea what the other child was wearing - perhaps just his PE stuff?

Agree it's worth getting another pair of trousers - surely this would have been possible over the bank holiday weekend? Or shorts?

Why on earth wouldn't you buy another pair? He's going to need more than one pair even if the others turn up. Or shorts, seeing as it's summer. Supermarkets near me have plenty.

My dcs have more than one pair so if have something to put them in the next day. I would just but anotherpair. Have they got his name in them? I wouldn't send him in blue jeans though, but a diplomat colour too his school trousers.

The OP clearly says her ds is down to his last pair of trousers, so I think this means he started off with more than one pair.

I would be inclined to buy some shorts for the remainder of the term. If you buy the longer type with adjustable waist they may do next year too.

DS3 did this with two school jumpers. He even got a friend to help him look for them, with no success.

On parents' evening we were walking past the cloakroom area his class use, so I thought I'd have a quick look. Within less than a minute, I had found both jumpers, both were within a 2 metre radius of his peg.

Hopefully they will just be on someone else's peg or on the cloakroom floor.

They are probably in someone else's PE bag.
Go in and ask to search them all yourself.
It's the only way you'll know for certain they've been searched for properly.

At the end of the day there will always be at least one item of lost uniform a year. You just have to factor it in as a tiny percentage of the overall costs. It's a pain.

I'd have just picked up another pair over the weekend but then would have had spares as one pair of trousers for school isnt realistic.

Uniform is now available all year round, DS needs new jumpers due to the handwriting pens they use and they were easy to pick up this week.

That would really freak my DSes out to have to wear something they shouldn't be. Would your DS mind? Don't you keep a spare pair of trousers, what happens if this one pair get dirty, food dropped on them etc?

if you are doing this because genuinely you cannot afford another pair, YANBU and no doubt the school may have funds to assist you ( i know this, slightly off topic, as my teen daughter insisted on going to school looking like worzel gummidge and the school told me to buy her some new trousers and shoes and they would reimburse me out of their welfare fund up to 35 quid. I suggested they put her in detention until she complied with the dress code and wear the perfectly suitable unworn uniform in her cupboard).
if you are doing this to make a point to the school yabu and will embarrass your child. i would imagine you could get a pair of supermarket trousers for a fiver. dd3 school dresses were a fiver each from sainsbos.

We finish school in less that 8 weeks. My DS has managed to get through about 3 pairs of trousers this year! We got these trousers from Tesco rather than Asda as they seem a better quality. As with most school trousers they dry really quickly so they usually get stuck in the wash once or twice a week and dry overnight. He's having such a growth spurt at the moment that I want to wait till August before buying him next year's trousers IYSWIM. And boy do I wish this was the only incident of lost property! We've lost 2 sweatshirts and a school fleece - all labelled. I have gone in before this and retrieved stuff that had migrated away from his peg - I appreciate that your average 9 year old boy's looking skills aren't that impressive .

I'll risk him going in tomorrow in his jeans in the very real hope that I will find them somewhere in the cloakroom or lost property pile or that a parent will have found them. If not then I will have to shell out again. I'm on a hugely tight budget at the moment and have just had to fork out a load of cash for school trips. Be nice to not to have to spend money unnecessarily!

My ds has one pair of school trousers at the mo - we just wash and dry them for the next day. Plan to get him another next month! But in these circumstances I'd definitely buy another pair if I could. If you can't afford it, then send him in the nearest colour trousers you have and explain to the teacher.

My DCs only have one set of uniform each. A) because of money, I could afford more than one set but I would rather not especially when B) they grow so fast that they simply dont get the wear out of them.

I dont see the issue with only having one set of uniform, but then I do 3 washes a day anyway, so I suppose chucking them in every day isnt a problem for me!

And why is it never the old red non monogrammed jumper that goes missing but the shiny new logo'd one? Thats why I no longer buy them!

Thinking about it, isnt uniform optional but preferable as this age? I dont think that they can exclude him for wearing jeans can they?

You've had 3 days to sort something out , even if it meant buying another pair but with a longer leg length you could turn up or shorts .