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to think my sister should have kept her very ill baby away from mine...

26 replies

jazyj · 05/05/2014 13:04

My sister brought her (very unwell) baby up too stay (with my 93yr old grandmother) at Easter for a family get together. My baby has now caught adenovirus and been ill for three weeks has had diarrhoea for three weeks, 3 GP visits, one hopsital visit two missed days at nursery and several days my partner (who is self employed) had t take off work...absolute nightmare. Am I being unreasonable to think she shouldve not brought her up (on a plane) and that she shouldve excercised better infection control?

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ApocalypseNowt · 05/05/2014 13:07

Yes she probably should have but doing a big trip with paid for flights is a lot to cancel. I'm not saying this is right but maybe that's why.

How ill was her baby? Was hers very ill before she even set off? I can't think of much worse than a baby with diarrhoea on a plane. Ew.

SpeedwellBlue · 05/05/2014 13:15

Yanbu. I dread to think what could have happened to the 93 year old if she had caught it

YoureBeingASillyBilly · 05/05/2014 13:23

"Very unwell" would mean- "being hospitalised and candles being lit" where i come from. How unwell was her baby when she set off to see you and why would you have let her stay if the baby was obviously ill?

SweetDreamz1 · 05/05/2014 13:25

YANBU

Hope your baby gets better soon Thanks

Nousernameforme · 05/05/2014 13:31

Sorry I might be missing the point but why has your baby only missed two days at nursery if she has been ill and presumably contagious for 3 weeks you are just as bad as your sister regarding infecting others

Andro · 05/05/2014 15:27

Nousernameforme - perhaps OP's DC only goes to nursery 2 days per week? If so then Easter hols make it quite possible that only 2 days have been missed (thus far).

OP, YANBU - assuming the dc was obviously unwell.

DrankSangriaInThePark · 05/05/2014 15:29

She possibly should have, yes. Especially for a 93 yr old who I presume, given the age hasn't got the immune system that most of us have.

YoureBeingASillyBilly · 05/05/2014 15:35

Do day care nurseries shut for easter? I've used two and they only shut for a week at xmas and a week in july (NI)

ChunkyPickle · 05/05/2014 15:44

Ours follows school term times - and plenty of kids only go a couple of days.

Sirzy · 05/05/2014 15:45

What was wrong with your niece?

MintyCoolMojito · 05/05/2014 15:49

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PrincessBabyCat · 05/05/2014 15:49

I'm with PP, why isn't she missing all her days of daycare for 3 weeks? You're just spreading diseases unless those two days were the only days she would have attended and she was staying home otherwise.

If it was a plane ticket, it'd be hard to cancel last minute and get your money back.

She should have at least warned you so you could keep your baby away from hers. Which brings up the point of, if it wasn't obvious the baby was unwell that you couldn't have separated them, then she probably wasn't as sick as you're making it out to be. Her baby could have just had some diarrhea and she thought she was more or less ok. Your baby just caught the shit stick end of it and was hit harder by the sounds of it.

Yes, sick babies are frustrating and upsetting. You have every right to be frustrated from lack of sleep and worry. But I don't think your sister is really the right place to lay the blame. Sick babies happen, it's just part of raising a kid. I hope baby feels better soon! Thanks

YoureBeingASillyBilly · 05/05/2014 15:53

"Ours follows school term times - and plenty of kids only go a couple of days."

Is it a nursery from birth to 12 or a nursery for 2.10 year olds to 4/5 year olds?

stargirl1701 · 05/05/2014 15:57

DD had adenovirus for 3 weeks. We also saw GP and hospital. I kept her in the house for the 3 weeks as she was pooing every 2 hours round the clock for 21 days.

Both you and your sister haven't followed good infection control.

quietbatperson · 05/05/2014 16:02

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YoureBeingASillyBilly · 05/05/2014 16:04

Im still confused about why OP let her sister and niece stay if they baby was obviously ill.

stargirl1701 · 05/05/2014 16:15

Keeping a baby off nursery for 2 days for an infection that generally lasts 21? Doesn't seem like good infection control to me. Both sisters not really following standard guidelines.

quietbatperson · 05/05/2014 16:19

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HerrenaHarridan · 05/05/2014 18:37

Oh come on folks, if the baby was as such as op describes the nursery would have kept her or had her back!

YoureBeingASillyBilly · 05/05/2014 18:41

"Oh come on folks, if the baby was as such as op describes the nursery would have kept her or had her back!"

What? Confused

HerrenaHarridan · 05/05/2014 18:50

If you took your baby to nursery as ill as the baby op describes they would insist you took them home and they certainly wouldn't have them back the next day.

Ergo there is another reason the op only cites 2 days off nursery.

Purplepoodle · 05/05/2014 18:54

Did your sister know it was adenovirus? My youngest dc who is still a baby threw up every meal for three days at my parents and had the most vile nappies. Turned out it was a combo of tooth coming through and probably a change in water.

YoureBeingASillyBilly · 05/05/2014 18:58

So you're saying....? What exactly?

Charlilou490 · 05/05/2014 19:05

That makes no sense Herrenaharridean!

OwlCapone · 05/05/2014 19:12

Have to say, I can't work out how a baby that has been ill for 3 weeks has only been off nursery for 2 days.

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