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Beemer30 · 04/05/2014 23:31

Turn the fecking TV off when we visit.

We have two young children just under 3 and 4 months. We go there every Sunday and it's always the same. TV on for no actual reason. Trying to encourage 3 year old to watch it regardless of what is on. 4 month old was getting v pissed off cause she was so tired and just wanted some peace without the TV blaring. I only watch TV if there is something I specifically want to watch. I let my 3 year old watch it sometimes if she asks but I don't want it forced on her. AIBU?

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BitterAndOnlySlightlyTwisted · 05/05/2014 00:16

You can only pop in for an hour because you have something else planned, and they only watch telly while you're there anyway.....

MrsKoala · 05/05/2014 00:22

I have similar but different with my parents and pils. Not the tv but they don't change their routines at all. We have just had to accept that they eat at ridiculously inconvenient times and carry on as if we weren't there.

My parents go to the pub Saturday and Sunday so we are expected to sit at the house waiting for their return then eat dinner with them half pissed at 10pm. and it fucks me right off. But I know it's their routine and life so there's not much I can do. I have decided to go over less now tho as it really is stressful being with a toddler at their house.

Caitlin17 · 05/05/2014 00:36

Why do you go there every Sunday? I think I'd hate that more than the television always being on.

BackforGood · 05/05/2014 01:05

YANBU - it's very rude to sit around watching TV all the time if you have visitors. Possible exception if there is one specific thing everyone wants to watch, but it goes off in this house if people come round.
I think I'd start suggesting going for a walk or going out to the park or even getting out the cars to play with, and if they won't, then you've got every reason not to go week after week, as nobody is interested in doing anything with the dc or talking to you.

wheresthelight · 05/05/2014 03:54

Sorry to go against the grain but I think yabu. His house, his rules. If you don't like it don't go.

MrsGeorgeMichael · 05/05/2014 05:16

stop going!

what relationship with DGC?

just stop going!

Delphiniumsblue · 05/05/2014 06:45

I don't see why you have got into such a routine. Invite them around to you instead, tell them you are going for a walk and ask them to come, go to the park and ask them to come- anything but mindlessly just going around, especially now the weather is getting better.

KatieKaye · 05/05/2014 06:51

It's incredibly rude for anyone not to turn off the TV when prearranged visitors arrive. (it's also rude not to turn off the TV when unexpected visitors arrive, but that isn't the situation here)
NOt sure if she can drive, but if not could your DH not bring MIL to your house instead? Sounds like she might appreciate a break from FIL.

YouCanTakeAHorseToWater · 05/05/2014 06:55

Don't inflict duty visits with uninterested grandparents on your kids, they will just hate it and family time becomes a total chore.

Go less, once very three weeks at the most and if they want to see you more they can come to you.

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