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AIBU?

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To not give my personal details to this woman?

36 replies

OldVikingDudeHidMyTubeSocks · 04/05/2014 20:51

and if not, how the fuck do I get out of it??

A good few weeks ago as I was coming out of school after drop off one of the mothers of a childin my DS class came running (rather fast) past me to get into a car.
After doing a sort of weird avoidance manoeuvre whilst running in order not to crash into me she went, quite literally arse over tit.

I did the usual polite asking if she was ok, is she sure? etc etc and she just mumbled that she was and got into the car - I assume she was rather embarrassed.

About a week or so later, while waiting for kick out time, she was talking about her fall and showed us her leg, it was horrendous, huge bruise like nothing i'd seen before.

Fast forward to last week and she came up to me and told me she wanted my details for 'the compensation claim' I told her I didn't know my mobile number off the top of my head and she just said 'hand them into the school and they'll pass them on'

Now I really don't want to do this.
Firstly she didn't trip over anything, there is nothing wrong with the pavement outside of the school and tbh she was running pretty fucking fast and rather erratically. So even if I did give details all im going to say is 'she was runnin g fast and fell over...

Plus (and this is going to sound really petty) I don't really like her! The first time I ever really became aware of her was when her son came running out with a card he'd mde her saying 'mummy, mummy I madeyou a card' and she just huffed and said he'd spelled something wrong!

How long do you think I can keep up benign thoughtlessness on the passing on of details?

Apologies for length.

OP posts:
OldVikingDudeHidMyTubeSocks · 04/05/2014 21:32

If that's the case AIBU to only give my details in exchange for monetary gain? Wink Grin

OP posts:
cozietoesie · 04/05/2014 21:40

You're just a witnessm, I'm afraid, so no monetary gain for you. (Unless, of course, she becomes famous and you sell your story of 'When I bumped into Dora Blackbruise' to the tabloids!) Wink

HermioneWeasley · 04/05/2014 21:41

I wouldn't give them to her - just tell her the school know how to get in touch with you if their insurers need to speak to you.

gamerchick · 04/05/2014 21:54

or you can take one for the team and tell her you can't believe she's putting a claim in for falling over her own feet and how disgusting you think it is Grin

MelonadeAgain · 04/05/2014 22:06

A bruise would hardly give any damages at all without some additional complications which it seems too early for. I don't even think there are listed guidelines on compensation for bruises.

To claim, she would need to prove negligence against whoever she is claiming against.

She sounds a bit odd. I wouldn't be doing anything she told me to. Simply don't comply and tell her no if she asks again.

IDontDoIroning · 05/05/2014 18:04

The chances are she is claiming against the local council, unless it happened inside school grounds and then she could be claiming against the school.

She's probably gone with a personal injury claims firm who will be looking to prove that the council/school was negligent in maintaining the pavement etc, and this caused her fall.
It's regrettable she was hurt but sometimes accidents happened and they are nobody's fault, or in this case it's her fault. These injury lawyer types seem to feed people with the opinion that there's always a few ££ to be had out of these.

As far as I know if you give her your personal details then the either her claims company or the school/ councils claims department will contact you direct to ask you about the incident. I know a little bit about how councils deal with these type of claims and it's very likely/certain they will defend this claim.

You can say truthfully what you saw ie she was running to her car and seemed to fall over her own legs as you saw no obvious trip hazards like defective pavements or kerbs.

This isn't free money as councils have to fund these payments out of our council tax or other budgets so you should consider giving this info if it will lead to her claim being rejected.

Floggingmolly · 05/05/2014 18:17

She's claiming against either the council or the school itself for injuries (and hardly life altering ones at that) caused by her own clumsiness at cannoning into someone coming the other way.
Assuming she has a hope in hell of compensation for a bruised knee; you really, really have a moral obligation to tell whoever needs to know what really happened. I hate people who do this.

Nennypops · 05/05/2014 18:19

Ask her who is handling the claim, and say you will contact them direct.

Gurnie · 05/05/2014 18:29

I'd catch her next time and say "I'm a bit confused....you said you are claiming compensation and need me as a witness....all I saw was you falling over your own feet! I'm not being obstructive, I just can't see how that's anyone's fault" Then if she says "Oh, I'm claiming off the council" you can say "Ok, well that's up to you and I will be a witness for you but I will have to tell them the truth and say that as far as I know you tripped over your own feet" You can't say fairer than that can you?

PrincessBabyCat · 05/05/2014 18:40

Tell her that her lawyer will have to get in contact with you as you don't want to give your info directly to her. I wouldn't. She sounds like a nightmare.

badbaldingballerina123 · 05/05/2014 20:19

I'd just tell her your not getting involved. Your not obliged to give anyone your personal details. Once you do they'll start mithering you with phone calls and letters. She will also get copys of anything you say , best to just state openly your not getting involved.

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