I have a friend, an ex-colleague, who I have known for about 12 years.
We used to do lots together, nights out, holidays even, with us, her and her OH and another couple.
She has always been a perfectionist and a little bit of a diva but it was just her personality, so part of her.
Eight years ago she got severe post-natal depression - so severe she still has it. Like I said, her son is now eight, and she has a 4-year-old as well.
In that time, her husband has left her, taking the kids - they now share custody and have them a week each, her parents have moved to be nearer other family but practically disowned her and she got the sack for accidentally sending a derogatoryemailabout another colleague to AllStaff instead of to one person.
So she's had it tough. But now I don't know what to do.
She is constantly negative about everything, day in, day out.
she has had (or been offered) every treatment imaginable, some she takes, others she refuses because they are "for mad people, not just those who have a shit life". I don't see her much now because she works long hours, but the last time we did meet up, she complained about her kids wanting to play in the park for "ages" when she wanted to go home, and her eldest said that my LO, then 18-months, was "annoying" even though she was asleep.
We communicate on Facebook (we live 20 miles apart) but she is so negative .i am thinking of blocking her.
I and all her friends have tried so many times to help. One Christmas she was complaining about being alone - I invited her to my family dinner. Turns out she wasn't actually alone, she was going to her boyfriend's parents but she wantd to make her family feel bad.
EVERYTHING is about her. Last week, her 4yo got sent home from school sick. Her status was all " Great, sick kid, had to leave work and clear up after him. FML." Never mind how he's feeling, poor little bugger.
But the thing that's tipped me over the edge is that yesterday I met with two other mutual friends who, due to distance, we see maybe every six months or so, tops.
We had a kids day out, picnic in the park, games etc. One friend put a pic on Facebook. Now she's put "Glad some people have nice days out -I can't paste a photo of one cos I don't."
Clearly aimed at us - and clearly an attempt to make us feel bad. And I do, but I'm sick of feeling bad.
She doesn't know that one friend is dealing single-handedly (as in no other family) with the sudden death of her mum and all the stress that goes with it - part of the reason we met is because I've been helping her and had to hand something over, and that we are currently having a year from hell with financial problems, health problems and two family cancer diagnoses, one terminal, all since January. So we decided to have a bit of fun and chill out. The last thing we needed was her "woe is me" attitude bringing us down.
So her status has really, really pissed me off. Part of me thinks it's not her fault she doesn't know our issues, another thinks she wouldn't care anyway,because they're not her problem.
I am seriously debating blocking her to avoid her several times a day statuses but then I feel bad, as though I am ignoring a cry for help.
WWYD?