About nudity in front of sons?

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I am very relaxed about being naked in front of ds's, they are 7 and 6 and ds2 has autism. ExH also was. Neither of them have ever expressed being uncomfortable about me being naked in front of them but recently bf has made some comments about needing to cover up in front of them.

Is he right? I don't parade around naked in front of them but if I'm walking from my bedroom to the shower or the other way around I don't bother covering myself up and often I sleep naked or in just a t shirt so when I get up in the morning they'll see me.

If they were older or seemed uncomfortable about it then I would but I honestly don't see the problem! Aibu?

I dress, undress, shower etc with ds3 (almost 8) and he is happy to run about naked. Ds2 (16) does not like nudity. He would not like to be seen without boxers and a t-shirt and would be freaked out if he saw me naked (who would blame him). Ds1(18) has some sn's and has no inhibitions what so ever and we had "the talk" before his P7 school trip to avoid any embarrassment. He often comes for breakfast in his boxers but now knows not to do this in a hotel.

I think you need to speak about this with dp and find a way forward that suits you both.

I'm mid twenties I needed a wee just the other day at my parents and my mum was in the shower. Neither of us flickered as I walked in and used the loo but we where always an open family.

Dd goes in the shower with her grandad and her dad and ds comes in with me ... No harm done.

Ive even been topless on holiday infront of my grandma around the private pool.

Might be weird to some people but for me it was normal - please note my family arnt nudists, nudity is in the bathroom during showers or on holiday sunbathing or in bed.

My DD sees me naked all the time, shes not bothered by it.

I dont want my DD thinking, the body is a shameful thing, its not, its a body not sexual.

The day she is bothered by it, is the day I cover up.

My friend and her mum are still like that. My younger sister has seen me mostly naked, she's not bothered either.

never seen my dad naked but see my mum, sister & grandmother nakes frequently. We're an open family. I sleep naked at home and at DPs, (even though he shares a room, as long as I keep myself covered he's not bothered) but he doesn't want his family seeing ME naked, fair enough as they're not like that
but if DP said, when we have children, "you have to cover up in front of DCs", I'd go mad. I don't see the problem with nudity.

My cousins boys both came running down to show her their first pubic hairs. She said 'that nice, can you put your pants back on now' lol

Purple My DN did that to his mum, its like a badge of honour for boys.

Red flag? FFS.

The whole naked thing makes me feel uncomfortable too, I wouldn't dream of doing it. Neither would my parents either because quite frankly I just don't think there's any need for it.

But I respect other people's opinions, I wouldn't think it was a red flag whether you wanted to or not.

Although a 16 year old girl I know used to lie naked in bed between her mum and dad (them naked too) which i thought a bit odd.

I was brought up in a naked family and hated it. Tbh, I found my parents' bodies frightening and repulsive in equal measure.

DH and I have therefore created a clothed family, although we're not paranoid about it and it's not a rule or anything iyswim. DSs seem well-adjusted - DS2 (21) saw me as I streaked from the bathroom a while back and he did a mock shudder and grimace .

I don't believe your DP's reaction is a red flag.

I can sympathise carabos: I didn't grow up in a 'naked family' but I do remember on holiday in a caravan accidentally seeing my dad naked and was mortified!

I often think it's different personalities more than anything else. We saw my mums boobs a lot (she went topless!) but if I'm totally honest pubic areas are too much for me.

Being uncovered is the natural human state. The only reason to cover it is for warmth. I grew up being uncovered when it was warm enough to do so, and I still live that way.
Covering up to hide one's body is just perverse.

Apologies op haven't read whole thread but just popping in to say ds1 aged 18 will still come in and chat to me whilst I'm in the bath . DSes 2 and 3 not so keen though!

If we lived in a society wherein walking around naked was acceptable sallying I would fully agree, but we don't so succumb to social norms. So I think it's acceptable for people to feel uncomfortable with it

Tequila if you are uncomfortable with bodies in their natural state, then yes that's your problem and I am sure you are able to deal with it.
As long as we both leave the other to live as we wish, we can both be happy. I won't complain to see you in your garden wearing clothes, and you won't complain to see me in my garden without clothes.

I agree absolutely, what I don't agree with is your perverse comment, that's all

My dh rarely saw his dad with out a tie on. My parents didn't do nudity. We stopped when ours got to around 6 . I think what you are comfort able with reflects how you were brought up.

sorry

has image of man completely starkers bar a nice smart tie

It all depends how long and wide it is :)