To find blw wasteful?

[susannahmoodie]

So I read up on it and get the idea but after lunch today when sweeping up fingers of melon and mango from under my 8mo's high chair, I've decided I can't afford for food to just be thrown away like this, especially when it could have been enjoyed by me my 3yo.

I would say 80% of what I give him ends up licked once then on the floor. Am I doing it wrong?

Sorry but adults, unless they have an eating disorder or allergies or something, need to get the fuck over fussiness when they have a child. How are you supposed to encourage them to try lots of different things if you don't eat them yourself? (And even with allergies or e.g. vegan diets you can make sure they are balanced and healthy and therefore suitable for a small child too).

I started eating more healthily when I had DS. I think that is a good thing for him and me. I still eat foods I like.

I agree Bertie, I refused to have a child with dp until he stopped dissecting every meal to make sure her didn't accidentally eat a vegetable, how can you encourage a child to try new things if their father lives off pasta and tomato ketchup ( a staple of dp's diet before we got together)

'Baby led weaning' and 'offering finger foods' are not the same thing. BLW is about allowing the baby to choose from a selection you provide. You put some food in front of them in suitably sized pieces and allow them to eat what they want. Baby is not fed spoons of carrot or whatever just because you don't think they've eaten enough veg today.

Giving finger food alongside purees is (as i understand it) traditional weaning.

BLW wasn't discussed when I had DS1, which is just as well as he would have starved. As far as he was concerned, putting anything other than milk or nurofen in his mouth was an abomination. He screamed if he had food in front of him. I fed him purée with a nurofen syringe, which duped him long enough to get the mouthful in!

How old was he, jolly? Just out of interest.

Ds would have starved too Jolly. All this 'food under one is just for fun' was bollocks where he was concerned. He started refusing milk at 3mo and we had to start weaning at 4mo, as he lost weight dramatically. He had 4 meals a day from then on, of sloppy milky food made up with formula or breast milk and only had one dream feed till 8mo when he finally refused that too. If we'd have gone down the blw route he would never have had enough nutrients.

We were out for lunch today and he had some jacket pot with cheese sauce and spinach mashed up, and still bloody choked and had to be yanked out of the high chair and have his back slapped as he gasped for breath, and he's nearly 20 mo. the lazy beast just won't chew

It can be so frustrating. One or two pieces at a time of whatever you're eating. We have chickens and they eat all licked and thrown leftovers. Not for everyone but makes me feel better about 'wasted' food if it's recycled into eggs.

Every child is different mrskoala. DD never chocked even from day 1 of weaning. She was I think just very very determined to feed herself. She even managed plums with skins from a very young age. Not sure when but it was under 1.

mrsKoala I wonder if there was an underlying reason for his milk refusal? DD went through a similar thing aged 2 1/2 months- she would not feed unless extremely sleepy. Turns out she had reflux aggravated by something I was eating (breastfed) and associated drinking milk with pain. When I identified the culprit and cut it out, it took a few days but then she started feeding normally again.

I'm not sure chronic. He had terrible reflux from birth and was always sick after drinking milk, but the moment he had solids it all stopped. The hv and dr were rubbish and just told me to wean him early. He has never drank milk since and I just about get some into him on his porridge in the mornings, he hates yogurt and cream cheese. I just make lots of milky dinners/white/cheese sauces and he does eat hard cheese too. He has never had a comfort bottle at bed time or anything. This is why blw never would have worked for us, because his only source of nutrition was from food (rather than the normal amount of milk a baby should have) and a few half chewed sticks of mango wouldn't have cut it. He is pretty massive tho, which kind of went against him, because every time I raise/d concerns with drs/hv they laugh and say he looks healthy enough. Err yeah cheers, you can't see how his bones are developing tho can you?