To think funerals should not be 'papped'

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There have been a couple of high profile funerals recently where family and friends attending have been photographed (famous people)
I feel funerals are a private time and the general public do not benefit from photos of people upset. I would feel that my privacy had been invaded if I was put in the newspapers at a time of grief. Is it unreasonable to think that photographers should respect this?

YANBU. One way to avoid supporting this trend is to stop buying the papers which are regular offenders.

YY to stop buying the papers which do this.

Though many watched the Royal Family to parade (literally) the streets in the full glare of publicity, so perhaps actual buying/viewing stats don't support what people say they find distasteful.

no you anbu.
When i was 18 a member of my immediate family was killed in a very public accident/disaster.
From the very moment it hapend the press were terrible, banging on the door, going round to friends houses, trying to take photos through windows ect it was constant and harrowing.
Even at the funeral we had press and news crews try to push their way through but we were lucky that some of the locals blocked their way ect.
It was in all honestly terrible and nearly sent my mother to a nervous breakdown.
What was the hardest of things to deal with was made 100 times harder due to the way the press behaved

yanbu and this is why some of us won't buy redtops or click on DM linkies (rubs halo in irritatingly virtuous manner)

motherofmonster for you and your poor mum.

Completely agree, I think it's shameful.

You are certainly not BU.

Yanbu.

YANBU

meditrina, do you mean Diana's funeral and the Queen Mum? I think they are different as they are deliberately public events.

Yanbu. I know someone who died in an unsual circumstance and the behaviour of the media at his funeral was shocking, standing on ladders to get a better picture, running down the church to get to the grave. It was shocking.

No funeral should be shown in media unless family have all agreed to it.

I was thinking more about the Princess of Wales and the strident voices calling for greater displays of emotion from the bereaved family. And the boys walking behind the coffin. Yes, they had a choice in what they did, and knew that they would be filmed throughout. But it wasn't exactly a free choice for them, given what the press was saying about the public mood.

I hate it. I especially hate it when it is of young people who have died locally in road accidents and they take pictures of the coffin and/or family arriving at the crematorium. It just seems so intrusive and unnecessary.

Actually, media coverage of funerals has improved immeasurably in the past couple of years. At my paper we never go to funerals unless specifically invited or it's a public event (ie military guard of honour lining streets etc).

The national press has now started to follow the same guidelines and if the recent funeral you're talking about is the one I'm thinking of, there was an agreement that pics could be taken outside the church, but not of the immediate family, which was adhered to. In fact since the death there have been no pictures at all of the family published, despite many opportunities for them to have been taken.

Yanbu. My friend died in a disaster that was a big news story when she was 23. I get that the disaster was newsworthy but not the private grief of her family and friends as we walked to her funeral. Was awful being filmed walking in. Awful.

Pleased to read what you have said finney

Been thinking the same thing again tonight. Watching preview of tomorrow's front pages & seeing close ups of Camilla replete with black clothing & tears streaming down her face.