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AIBU?

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To think 12 is too young for an all nighter?

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SpringItOn · 01/05/2014 18:16

DS has just phoned me from the local indoor skate/BMX park. he wants to go to an all nighter, 9pm to 9am for his friends 12th birthday. Sounds like theyve just seen a flyer for it down there but apparently his friends mum has said its ok. AIBU to think 12 is way too young for an all nighter? The staff are lovely and so are the other guys who go, but, I think he's too young and have said no. He'll be completely knackered for days afterwards.

He is not a happy skate boy!

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arethereanyleftatall · 01/05/2014 18:18

Do you mean they skate all night?

HeadfirstForTHiddy · 01/05/2014 18:20

I would probably say yes tbh, as a one off.

HeadfirstForTHiddy · 01/05/2014 18:21

He would be on early nights for a week as part of the deal though.

HeadfirstForTHiddy · 01/05/2014 18:21

I can see why you and other parents might not be keen, mind.

SpringBreaker · 01/05/2014 18:21

I would want to know how well supervised it was and the ages of the others there

Sparklingbrook · 01/05/2014 18:23

I have a 12 year old DS and it wouldn't be a straight no. I would want to know who else is going, supervision etc.

Deftones · 01/05/2014 18:23

I'd say yes to it, but then I was a skater and knew many skaters and there were plenty of all nighters

Andrewofgg · 01/05/2014 18:25

On a Thursday night with school the next day? You have got to be boring and say No and mean No.

AlpacaLypse · 01/05/2014 18:27

apparently his friend's mum says it's okay

I'd want to speak to her face to face!

WowOoo · 01/05/2014 18:28

I'd compromise and say he can do a half nighter as long as it was on a Friday and he had the weekend to catch up on sleep.

Or just say no!

cardibach · 01/05/2014 18:28

I'd want more info, but wouldn't say no on the grounds of tiredness. Early nights before and after would sort that. However, it might attract an unsuitable (to mix with 12 year olds) crowd and I'd want to know more about entry policy, supervision and intended participants.

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SpringItOn · 01/05/2014 18:32

No, it's on a Saturday night. So mixed responses! Yes they skateboard or BMX all night. He's pleading via text at the moment as there are only limited places. Had a quick word with DH, he's of the same opinion that it's probably aimed at older teens rather than 12 year olds.

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LittleprincessinGOLDrocks · 01/05/2014 18:33

It depends what day it is. If it is on a Saturday I would think about it. He could have a lie in on the Saturday till around lunchtime, and then he could go straight to bed on coming home and have a lazy day all sunday and go to bed early. Treat it like a night shift.

Any other day I think it would be a no.

LittleprincessinGOLDrocks · 01/05/2014 18:35

sorry cross posted. I think I would insist on meeting the other childs mum and insuring that there will be adequate supervision. I would also consider me or DH being there to supervise for at least an hour or 2.

DebbieOfMaddox · 01/05/2014 18:36

I think I would consider it for a 12yo in the school holidays (or possibly the Saturday before a Bank Holiday), but not on a regular Saturday night.

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SpringItOn · 01/05/2014 18:38

I'm not too worried about the crowd it will attract, the older skateboarders are always good with the younger ones, it restored my faith in teen boys when my DS was a beginner age 7/8. I think it's more about too much too young. I give him a lot of freedom but if I let him stay out all night, what's he going to want next!?

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bigdeal · 01/05/2014 18:43

it would depend on supervision for me , if that was all ok it would be a yes, would rather mine did that than being on the laptop all night .

Sparklingbrook · 01/05/2014 18:44

Is it possible to ring the skate place and ask about it?

I don't think by letting him do this it's too much too soon though, he will have a great time by the sound of it.

littleblackno · 01/05/2014 18:44

I would probably say yes if I was happy with the set up regarding supervision etc. My ds (8) and dd (6) are starting to do things with cubs and beavers, camps etc, they are not technically supposed to be up all night but get very little sleep and are fine after a few early nights. They get a lot out of it and really enjoy it even if they are grumpy the next day.

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SpringItOn · 01/05/2014 18:55

Ok maybe IABU then

I think littleblackno makes a good point re younger ones being allowed to camp out etc. I'll see what other info I can find out re supervision.

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SaucyJack · 01/05/2014 19:02

I reckon all night might be pushing it- but you could arrange to pick him up at 1 or 2?

VivaLeBeaver · 01/05/2014 19:11

Dd's school did a sports all nighter when she was in Year 7. They could sleep in a corner if they got tired. I got a phone call at 1am to come and get her.

I'd let him.

pictish · 01/05/2014 19:13

Assuming they will be safe and supervised, I'd say yes. I have a boy of 12 and a half, and he'd love to do something like this.

Preciousbane · 01/05/2014 19:18

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Fathertedfan · 01/05/2014 19:26

I'd say no. Save this kind of thing for when you're older or you won't have anything to look forward to. But then I'm a miserable old bat as a rule.

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