To expect people to discipline their dc?

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Was at a babygroup recently. A four years old boy (known to be quite forceful) pulled dd of her trike and pushed her to floor and hen it on ot himself. I went over and picked up dd (who is only 1) and his nan exclaimed, "oh he is just trying to tell her its pack away time"
I looked at her and replied, "Yehhhh..." Sarcastically. And stomped off with dd.

Nothing more was said. Another lady came up to me as said the little boy was always very heavy handed with other dc and not told off for it. I am not angry at the boy obviously. My own dd is heavy handed at times and I simply correct her and show her how to play nice , in the hope he will eventually learn gentle means gentle (she getting there !)
Now I know I am maybe bein a lil pfb here, but is no the fact he was rough with dd- it's the fact he is not disciplined and runs around causin mayhem without being corrected.
It is only him, no siblings. I find rhis to be quite common too, little kids being naughty and not getting told off ever. Or even just corrected nicely. It takes one minute and everyone feels better. Dd can be strong willed and grabby, but I try to show her (as much as you can at her age) how to play nice. Why do other parents let their kids push/ kick/ grab all the time.

Yes keeping my SIL is the same. Safely he doesn't get invited to party's ect as he terrorises the kids.

This is what drives me insane about toddler groups. I have taken all my DCs to them, but stay close by, there's always 1 little darling, who sees fit to kosh all the others on the head with hard toys, whilst mummy chats away (oblivious) and sips tea.

Now that I'm older, I don't stand for it - I freely tell the naughty child off and remind them, audibly, to play gently. I cannot bloody stand these parents or whoever has brought them to playgroup, who do naff all about watching the child.

I'm of the opinion that some parents don't like to appear to be telling their dcs off because if makes them look uncool.

I know for certain its the case for a few people whose kids run absolute riot. Evidently, aging hipster parents are desperate to to give the impression they are so laid back and all like "whatever" that their little darlings can behave however they feel like without consequences.

Once I was in the Wacky Warehouse with my then 18month old. We were in the under five section. He was stood at the top of the slide just manoeuvring in to position to come down. A girl came up who was clearly too old to be in that section and she pushed my son down the slide. As he was standing up this was a splat onto the slide face down. I immediately told her off telling her 'that was a very naughty thing to do and you must never ever push people'. Her mum who wasn't in the play area (i.e. not supervising) came over and shouted at me 'how dare you tell my daughter off she is only 7' so I responded 'well my son is 18months and she just pushed him face first off the top of the slide. And this is the under five section'. I was livid. She got her daughter out of the section. After that several people came over to congratulate me!

I have told off or spoken to/cautioned children on a number of occasions. Usually if they are doing something dangerous- once I found a child climbing on a first floor balcony wall in a sports centre. His parents had just dropped him off for a holiday club and didn't bother to wait til the staff arrived. I was worried that if he fell he'd be dead! A 15ft ish fall. But also in the cinema and things like that. We are adults after all... Just reminding them that some behaviour is not acceptable and or dangerous.