Wibu to ring my friend to explain, or would I make it worse?

[Pyjamaramadrama]

Ok I'll try to explain clearly.

Ds had his birthday party at soft play, my sister was there and so was my friend with her two children.

My sister can be quite rude and sarcastic. For example the first thing she said when she walked in was how she 'hates these places they stink', and raising her eyebrows at all the other parents. And commenting about what people were wearing etc.

When all the kids were having their food my sister kept saying how beautiful my friends kids are, which I agreed. Then she said 'no they really are good looking', I said I know and I love them to bits, she said again yes but they're so good looking and kept repeating it over and over.

Because of how she can be sarcastic and how she kept repeating in the end I said 'are you taking the piss or something'? She said she wasn't and I said sorry just thought you were being sarcastic and that was that.

Then 10 minutes later she turned around to my friend and said. 'I told pyjama how beautiful your kids are and she thought I was taking the piss'.

I wanted the ground to swallow me up. Now it looks to my friend as though I was being nasty about her children when I love my friend and her little ones to bits but I get a bit defensive with my sister saying things as I'm used to her being rude about people.

What on earth do I do? :(

I think you probably should call to explain.

Ring up and say your sister was winding you up, taking your words out of context and trying to shit stir. Why do you include her in things?

Nothing. Your sister was acting rather oddly.

To be honest, I couldn't care less if my friends (or their sisters) think my children are beautiful or not. DH and I do and that's all that matters.

So - I genuinely wouldn't be bothered about your dister's comment and would probably feel a bit sorry for you as if think she was pretty gauche

Your sister sounds really unpleasant! Yes, I'd try to explain what you've said here.

Didn't you stick up for yourself right there and then? What happened after she said that?

yep - call to apologise about your sister's behaviour and explain then never mix your sister with the rest of your people in your life that are not related to again.

I don't normally take offence, but in that situation I'd definitely appreciate a call saying "I'm sorry about what my sister she's a bit of a twat sometimes." because I'd be feeling a little hurt!

I didn't explain at the time because I thought my friend would think I was bonkers and she probably still will as why should I think my sister was 'taking the piss'. Well because she does that, but I don't think it's something other people would get unless they knew her.

I'm never inviting her anywhere again I'm gutted as I'd never, ever say a nasty thing about a child especially those two.

I think you need to actually explain the situation rather than apologising, as if you just apologise and say your sister is a bit rude she will think it happened as your sister said.

Apologising for what happened suggests you did something wrong. apologising for the confusion/hurt your sister caused would be better.

I'd call and explain briefly. Your sister sounds very unpleasant, frankly. Have you tried to explain to her that it's possible not to blurt out any thought that comes into your head? I assume so, but I can't imagine why you would spend time with someone whose idea of conversation is this.

Well I rang her and just said that I hope it wasn't taken out of context and that my sister was being rude about the party and some of the other guests and so I always assume she means the worst.

My friend was very polite and said that she hadn't heard sister anyway and wouldn't take offence, but who knows?

She said my sister was very pleasant to her but that she understands where I'm coming from as I know her better.

I just hope friend knows me well enough to know iyswim.

I'm still gutted and I've learnt my lesson where my sister is concerned as she just can't keep her gob shut.

She sounds like my sister. My sympathies.

You've just explained the situation perfectly well to a group of random strangers on the Internet and it made sense to us - we can tell what happened and understand where the confusion came from, and we don't know you from Adam! This woman is your friend and knows what you're like, so I'm sure she'll understand and won't take offence at a comment taken out of context. Don't beat yourself up.