walk away from NCT group

[sunshinesoutmybum]

Hi everyone this is my first post, please be kind :-)
I joined a nct class last year before the birth of my pfb, and found the classes ok but the real benefit was the support of the other mums as I have no family close by. Everything has been going great we had a fb group message, met up at least once a week with babies and it was generally pleasant. However in the past couple of months everything has changed and I feel like a teenage girl at the mercy of school bullies! I missed a few of the arranged meet ups as dd was poorly and then was unable to join up to a expensive class that the majority of the group wanted to do. At the last meet up it was very apparent that they have been meeting up lots without me and have started another fb group message without me (another mum told me she had been added to it recently). So my question is this am I being unreasonable to send each of them a severed horse head?!! Seriously I should just walk away and try and make some more mum friends at other play groups right?

Move on, but don't burn any bridges.

You and your NCT group are a bunch if strangers who have little in common apart from PFBs the same age. When the babies were tiny, they wre the only thing of any importance to you, so knowing people with similar tiny babies was also v important. Now the babies are getting older you are ready to move on.

I "left" my NCT group when ds was about a year old, but happy to run I to them occsssionally, but I really can't afford the dinners out ad weekends away.

Sorry you're having this experience.

Parent gives good advice - actually the same advice that one of our NCT group's DH's gave to his DW when she was having an experience a bit like yours. She spent more time with the less intense members of the group (including me, naturally ), and, over time, got a more balanced friendship with the rest of them.

You meet a lot of new people through nursery and school, so this stage is not forever.

FWIW I have made one of my best friends through my NCT group - somebody who I would never have met otherwise - and the whole group supported each other brilliantly through the bumpy transition to first time parenthood, so I'm personally a fan.

Move on but stay polite. If you get invited to anything with them then go if you want to, and extend invites to them if you want, but otherwise focus on the other mummies at the playgroups you attend. I quickly lost all contact with my NCT group (DH and I walked away from the last meet up we went to, turned to each other, and said "well that's 1.5 hours of my life I'll never get back), and found people at the other groups who I liked much much more.