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AIBU?

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Aibu not to go to this wedding

12 replies

Normalisavariantofcrazy · 30/04/2014 07:46

A relative of DH is getting married in the summer. We recieved a family evening invite and were planning to go. However, as people have dropped out people are moving up the list and now getting reissued with day invites, for us this is DH only and not me and not the children, the venue is local but still a £15 taxi ride away, plus I would feel like a muppet turning up on my own with the kids and sober when DH will be plastered!

AIBU not to go?

OP posts:

Nocomet · 30/04/2014 07:49

It's not you who'll look like a Muppet, it's your DH. Grown men shouldn't get plastered!

raffle · 30/04/2014 07:51

He won't be plastered by the start of the evening do surely?

WooWooOwl · 30/04/2014 07:52

YANBU. It's quite rude to only 'upgrade' one member of the family, because it causes the un upgraded person to feel just the way you are feeling and messes up travel arrangements.

As it's family, in your position I think DH should decline the day invite and still just go with all of you in the evening.

MrsMaturin · 30/04/2014 07:54

Ugh - well the bride and groom are behaving badly with their invites and a husband who can't go to a daytime wedding reception without getting hammered is no asset at all.

pluCaChange · 30/04/2014 07:54

Interesting that other people are dropping out if this wedding....

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Normalisavariantofcrazy · 30/04/2014 07:57

It's how the family are with their drinking plus it's the only way to cope around his family

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Gileswithachainsaw · 30/04/2014 07:58

Yanbu

Some people use any excuse to get pissed and it's pathetic if he can't stay sober. You can still drink. I eouldvt want to go meet my pissed dh. I've grown out of that behaviour wedding or no wedding.

Only1scoop · 30/04/2014 08:01

Wow he's been 'upgraded'

What an honour

How old are your dc do they want to go?

Quinteszilla · 30/04/2014 08:07

It's how the family are with their drinking plus it's the only way to cope around his family

If all adult family members are going to be hammered by the evening, I would not take the kids there at all.

diddl · 30/04/2014 08:08

Your husband sounds a charmer.

As do the B&G.

One to miss I would say, sounds awful.

gordyslovesheep · 30/04/2014 08:10

just go to the evening do with your DH - he doesn't HAVE to accept the invite to the day do does he?

and don't take the kids - not if everyone is going to be 'hammered'

girlywhirly · 30/04/2014 08:14

An invitation is just that, it's not an order. If you would prefer to go as a family to the evening, send an acceptance for that, and decline the day one for DH. You don't have to say why you are declining an invitation. If anyone specifically asks, you can say you had plans for the daytime of the wedding day already.

However I am also curious to know why people are dropping out, had they accepted their invitation and then declined later on, or is this just they wouldn't be attending anyway because of being on holiday or at another wedding? I do know that some guests can be ridiculously slow at accepting/declining, which might make it look as if they are dropping out.

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