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Original poster

to wonder who else would have done the same...

26 replies

MsColouring · 28/04/2014 19:52

My ex accidentally left his diary in dd's school bag. No idea why. Couldn't help myself, wanted to know if he'd been working so had a peek.

I know it was unreasonable. But can't help wondering if other people would have managed to resist.

Dp took it back round to him to stop me reading any more.

OP posts:
Joanne279 · 28/04/2014 19:54

Oh absolutely! Unless confronted, then I absolutely definitely didn't read a word! ?? x

Fizzybangfanny · 28/04/2014 19:55

What did you find?

Joanne279 · 28/04/2014 19:55

Haha! This made me laugh! Sod the technicalities! What did you find!!! Lol

m0therofdragons · 28/04/2014 19:57

Oh I would definitely read it... I'm very nosey and not ashamed... except if confronted, in which case my reply would be "oh it never crossed my mind, don't care what exp is up to" :)

Original poster
MsColouring · 28/04/2014 20:04

He's had his job seekers stopped because he's not actively looking for work. Every job he is offered is unsuitable. He's had a couple of no shows on dates. He's written some crap about DS 4 saying he wishes he was there all the time ( he says to me he wishes he was with me all the time).... Slagged me off a couple of times.

OP posts:
Joanne279 · 28/04/2014 20:06

It's always good to have info to stuff up your sleeve for use another day. Nothing any juicier? X

Original poster
MsColouring · 28/04/2014 20:09

No DP got me to stop reading as I was starting to get wound up about the comments about me and the kids.

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Fenton · 28/04/2014 20:10

Is there a chance he might have planted it to wind you up?

Who the hell keeps an actual paper diary which includes 'thoughts and stuff what people said' these days anyway?

SoFetch · 28/04/2014 20:12

Who on earth keeps a diary?!

Original poster
MsColouring · 28/04/2014 20:12

I had that thought Fenton. Well he clearly has no- one to talk to.

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Fenton · 28/04/2014 20:16

You're DP is doing you a favour, let it go, be content that he's done it to wind you up and you are not wound up, no you're not, no no. Wink

Don't let it show anyway, and don't ever, ever refer to anything you've read. ever. Smile

PrincessBabyCat · 28/04/2014 20:17

Why is his diary in your DD's backpack? Sounds like he planted it on purpose. I say it's fair game. Also, it's probably him being passive aggressive, you can't get mad about something he wrote in his diary that you weren't suppose to read. It's kind of your own fault if you get upset about it though.

I don't know if I would read it personally. It would depend on my relationship with him. If I respected him, I'd respect his privacy. If we had a falling out, I probably wouldn't be above it. Hmm

Original poster
MsColouring · 28/04/2014 20:25

Passive aggressive is definitely him. I don't have any respect for him. I have read so much bile about myself in court papers none of this could be any worse. Ramblings of a very twisted mind unfortunately.

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whilewildeisonmine · 28/04/2014 20:28

I'd say he left it there accidentally-on-purpose too. Ignore.

Andrewofgg · 28/04/2014 20:30

OP Take great care never to say anything in court papers which could only have come from this diary - it could be a major shot into your own foot.

chesterberry · 28/04/2014 20:30

I keep a paper diary Blush

(And would definitely have read ex's in your position)

Ruushii · 28/04/2014 20:32

Bolloooooooocks did that happen Grin

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 28/04/2014 20:32

So it's ok to read someones diary but not to read their text messages? Confused

Itsfab · 28/04/2014 20:35

Plenty of people keep a diary Hmm.

Don't be Blush chesterberry. Just because some people can't see the attraction of keeping a diary doesn't mean there is anything wrong in your doing so.

ICanSeeTheSun · 28/04/2014 20:41

I don't think I would.

ICanSeeTheSun · 28/04/2014 20:43

I keep a dairy, a proper paper one.

I keep all my dates and appointments in there. Stapled my holiday forms in the right place. Also keep appointment letters.

Fenton · 28/04/2014 20:46

Sorry, I didn't mean it to be insulting to anyone who does, I apologise for that. I just wanted to highlight what a stretch it was that private thoughts about the OP and comments their child had made could be 'accidentally' left for her to view.

VampyreofTimeandMemory · 28/04/2014 21:48

a similar thing happened to me once, not a diary but 'draft' statements (that never made it into court because they were so crazy!).

if I now had the chance to read ex's diary, I wouldn't, simply because I have no interest in his life or thoughts.

SoFetch · 29/04/2014 18:54

Sorry Chesterberry I didn't to be rude! It's just something that i had never thought of. Silly of me to think that just because I haven't, other people don't. I do apologise.

ICan I keep a similar diary. I was thinking more of a journal-type diary.

aermingers · 29/04/2014 19:00

Your private thoughts about him and the kids would probably upset him if he saw them.

People who snoop have noone to blame but themselves if they read things they don't like. No sympathy at all.