aibu to take....

[Iwanttobeanonymous]

I have been invited to a bridal shower which is a "bring a plate of cakes or sandwiches afternoon tea event".

Original request was for veggie food. This has new been extended to dairy free, gluten free and egg free.

Is it even possible to make an edible gluten, dairy and egg free cake?? I thought of chocolate rice krispie cakes but guess the chocolate has dairy in it.

So Aibu to take some grapes!!

Vegan marshmallows do exist!

Its an afternoon tea party - not hen do as partners and children can go. No booze!!
The organisers is not the bride so we can't call her bridezilla; bride is American and Will be marrying over there so I am spared the reception - although that will probably just be veggie!

I am considering sausage rolls and a hip flask in my bag!

Requests are for sandwiches and cakes/scones so rice dish is out.

Btw I have a food allergy myself - not one if the listed ones - but its unusual so I would just make soured to avoid that food, not expect to be catered for (so I haven't mentioned it to them)

Not one of the listed ones
I would make sure to avoid...

No alcohol either!

www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2014/feb/28/gluten-free-dairy-free-and-egg-free-lime-drizzle-cake-recipe

This is nice. I made it for my vegan sister in law and my celiac auntie.

I know everyone will disagree and say they love to go to pot-luck weddings and bring a dish, but I think having a bridal shower and not even providing a few sarnies and a cake is just unbelievably stingy. I fail to believe these people are so poor they cannot spend £15 on a few things from the party selection at some cheapy supermarket- just like everyone who is quite poor and has a birthday party for their kids every year for the pride of it.

I'm not wealthy, but when my friends call, I feed them- they do the same to us when we go to their houses. Am I odd?

The specificity regarding the exact type of food is just the icing on the cake of rudeness not on the actual cake as they are too stingy to provide one

My niece has to have gluten, dairy, soya, nut, egg and possibly a whole host of other things free food. Making cakes is a challenge which we leave to another mum who successfully bakes fabulous cakes which fit the bill, right down to fillings and icings being safe.

Check with marshmallows as some have egg in. Failing that, you are perfectly reasonable to take one of many a fruit salad. I

Take Cucumber sandwiches made with gluten free bread. Much easier than faffing with to make cakes. (And have a stash of tasty food in your handbag to snack on when no one is looking)

*impossible to make cakes

Stupid phone

I don't mind the pot luck bring a plate idea and I think the organisers is planning to do a fair bit if the cooking as she us one of the ones with allergies.

Its the combination that is awkward. I would happily produce veggie (even vegan), or egg free or gluten free or dairy free. Its the combination.
Maybe a nice bowl of nuts...(no one has mentioned no nuts yet)!!

YANBU, but if you want to impress, these brownies are egg, gluten and dairy-free and delish to boot!

www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/1144652/gluten-and-dairy-free-brownies