Aibu to be unhappy at child care made for my child without my permission

[Joanne279]

I'm so cross but because this is to do with mil, I'm not sure I'm over reacting.

Mil was asked to babysit 1yesr old whilst we move house. I have now found out she has an interview the same day. Now, instead of telling me so we could over come this together, she's arranged to take my child to her interview and leave her in the car with her other son.

My problem is that I wasn't asked, or even told what would happen. She mentioned it to dh who
Wasn't happy either.

Also, her last interview that dh drove her to was 1.5 hours long! Plus 40 min each way driving. I'm not happy at my child being in a car unnecessarily for that long, especially when I wasn't even told before hand.

If I would have known about her interview I would have happily made other arrangements for my child.

Aibu to be annoyed? X

Mooncup DH and I are going away for the weekend soon.

If DC needs medical treatment, then I would fully support mil taking them. Mil have taken DD for a haircut and as my mil has a moter home have decided to take the DC away for the night.

I trust her. Never had any issue with her. We share the same values and parenting techniques.

When I handed my children over to my MIL to look after for the day I never asked for her itinerary. I trusted her to do what she thought best. I'm find it strange that people make such a fuss about something that seems pretty trivial. It's just a car journey with a grandma and uncle surely.

She's babysitting, presumably for free, not providing activities in line with the EYFS. Does it matter if a child sits in a car for a few hours? Can't really get worked up about it myself. I think she was trying to save you stressing not bizarrely keeping it from you.