AIBU not to have punched this man?

[DogCalledRudis]

I was at one event last weekend. I was wearing a dress and leggings. The dress had a slogan written on the bottom of the skirt.
So i walk past this man (he's sort of a family friend), he grabs my dress, lifts it up to read the slogan out loud. I am not a violent person, but if my DH had been there, he would have punched his daylights out of him.

So, you had leggings on. He's not a stranger, you wear a skirt with words in a daft place, FFS get a life.

Yanbu

It's not nice to be grabbed by anyone, strangers or folk you know

I didn't realise choice of clothing was asking for it, ffs get a clue.

OP yanbu to be annoyed.

I don't think it is a proper behaviour for a man to grab and lift a woman's dress (and nobody of us were drunk or anything)

You're right Nocomet - every woman should make sure she doesn't wear anything that might provoke a man to behave inappropriately! Silly Rudis for thinking she should be able to wear what she wants without being grabbed at by complete tossers!

Rudis YANBU to be angry and put out by this man.

Just seems an utter over reaction to start a thread, when she was clearly perfectly decently dressed under the skirt and she knows him.

I'd be furious with a random in the street, but I'd take it as a joke from a bloke I knew unless he had previous for being a drunken letch, but then I used exchange sexual banter with my DMaleF at work that would have made the femanist board go into melt down.

Why does it being a joke make it ok though? Lots of people claim annoying behaviour is a joke in order to get away with things. No idea if that is what was happening here, I just don't understand why grabbing a person's clothing and making her feel uncomfortable is ok as long as you claim you were trying to be amusing.

Id have been pissed off, since when is it ok for someone to lift your dress up just because you have a pair of leggings on

At that moment i did not react at all... I am quite slow with reactions to things i don't understand.
The slogan on my dress was factory made "new age girls on the road to heaven"

Did it say 'Juicy couture' ?

So if she were wearing tights and knickers this would not have been OK, but because it was leggings... it's fine because she didn't have her knickers exposed in public, even though what he did was still controlling and humiliating?

Jesus.

It certainly did not say JUicy Couture.
Do you thing its appropriate for a man in his 40's to behave like this?

No sorry, I was just poking some light hearted fun.

He should not have grabbed it and lifted it up without warning/asking first. I can imagine asking what it said then lifting to read without thinking. yanbu to be pissed off.

Well punching is obviously ott and unreasonable, as you already know OP.
However, this bloke looser clearly overstepped your boundaries. I would wear then same outfit again next time you meet with this bloke and ask him in from of everybody loud and from the outset if he will be able to exercise some impulse control this time around as last time he had felt the need to lift your dress to check out your bottom.

I can't stand guys like that.

YANBU for being put out by this man's behaviour but I think YAB a bit U for admitting that you took no action at the time and then come on here to moan about it. And to put the onus on your husband to have taken some action if he had been present.

If he really made you feel that uncomfortable then surely you could at least have managed a "Oi what do you think you are doing? Keep your hands to yourself" thus embarassing him in to thinking twice before he tries anything like that again.

As it is you seem to have meekly ignored it at the time so he probably thinks it is an OK thing to do as you didn't object.

The thing is... I did not know how i should have reacted... I think i should have screamed

The thing is... I did not know how i should have reacted... I think i should have screamed

Well that would also have got his attention and made him think twice!