Not to have got my baby weighed AGAIN

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I attend a weekly stay and play at a children's centre which happens to co-inside with the health visitor drop in session so we can just nip out to get baby weighed without queuing. Sessions weren't on for the Easter hols so this was the first week in 3 that I have been.

Baby is 14 weeks old and her weight has followed middle line for weeks now (been weighed most weeks). This week my cousin said 'you getting baby weighed yea?' and I replied 'no, I can't be bothered'. The play worker was sat with us and said 'don't say that in front of me!'

I didn't mean it as in, I don't care about my baby's health, but as in, she is doing fine, her nappies are good and she is very smiley and content so I don't want to keep worrying about her 'numbers'. (Plus getting her undressed and dressed is a faff as she was asleep). Should I be getting her weighed all the time? The play workers comment has made me think I should have got her weighed.

DD1 was weighed weekly, it caused me a lot of stress until she was 9 months and I returned to work, she was next weighed at school where being a low weight was considered good! DD2 was rarely weighed (she was a butter ball and I had 2 under 2, weighing the baby weekly was not my top concern) and after 9 months wasn't weighed again until school. DS has been weighed more post 9 months but that's because he has food allergies and so because of his restricted diet we need to make sure he's developing normally. So there's a recognised medical reason. But he still only gets weighed every 6 months or so.

The advice is that you only NEED to get weighed at essential appointments so once they have regained birth weight they don't NEED to be weighed until 7 months. Most people weigh much more often than that.

Agree that regular weighing is rather pointless without any concerns to address about weight. You could always go on bathroom scales if you're curious, they are pretty accurate these days, much less faff than queuing and undressing etc.

My DS got weighed by the midwives at home after he was born, then again at the 6 week check and again at his 12 month check. He was clearly healthy, eating and drinking, and happy - and I couldn't be arsed to drive for 25 minutes across town to the children's centre. I trusted my instincts with this. If I ever had had concerns though, I would absolutely have made the trips. YANBU.

"I needed to be stricter and tell her 'no' when she wriggled, she was about 4 months old"

You should have mock scolded her. Telling her she was losing tv privileges and nights out with friends. I would have. LOL, telling a 4 month old to stop wiggling.

I've only weighed my daughter a couple times since she was born. She's eating fine, alert, and outgrowing her outfits. But I'll probably have her weighed once a month to fill out her baby book. :)

dc1 was weighed several times a day ( i suffered from anxiety and bought my own electronic scales), dc2 (2.5yrs) has been weighed twice having had my anxiety treated - it was quite obvious dc2 was growing as i had to keep buying her bigger clothes

YANBU at all. DD3 is 7 weeks and I've never once taken her to be weighed for the hell of it. She feeds well and I can see with my own two eyes that she's getter longer and fatter.

I used to take DD2 a lot as she was a sorry sack of bones. It didn't serve any purpose other than to stress me out tho. She still looks like a famine victim now.

With my first dc I had them weighed every fortnight. I thought I had too. My friends would want to compare their baby's weight to mine. I thought I would look like a bad Mum if I didn't go with them.

When I had dc2 I realised that this was optional and I never went to have him weighed. He was healthy and happy and had no health issues.

My hv advised once a month so long as I had no concerns so I think the play worker was being a bit of a tit

My 9 month old, first baby was weighed at 2 weeks and I was told the hv wanted to see him and get him weighed every week as I was mix feeding.
I ignored this as I thought he was fine, which he was,
I got him weighed at 4 months, as I was summoned for a health and development meeting.
And yet again he was still fine 91st centile still.
Some people are obsessed with it, just ignore it.

My son saw a HV aged 4 weeks. After that if I hadn't taken him to GP' s when he was ill or for jabs etc the next time he would have seen a medical professional would have been when he started school age 4!!!
He was never weighed after 4 weeks until he was 4, it never bothered me as I can see he is fine.

My children are much older (30s) they were weighed the first couple of weeks and then whenever they had to get a routine injection. My daughter has done the same thing with her son. Very week for months us just Ridiculous.

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I never weighed my dcs they were both enormous when born, so much so that the theatre staff started laughing! I was very proud mortified they are now head and shoulders above me. Dsil was obsessed with weighing hers and checking poos, I didn't get it then and I don't get it now. Yanbu.

None of the playworkers business

I have never gone and got my 8 month old officially weighed, or seen a health visitor. She's chubby, so I don't see the point. My first was a really skinny thing so I used to get her weighed obsessively. That was a pointless worry too.

I got DD weighed every week to keep my bloody mother off my back. I'm the first one to breastfeed and she was convinced he was going to die of malnutrition because I wasn't feeding him the 'proper' way!

DD only got weighed 3 times when the health visitor came to the house at 3 weeks old, 3 months and 9 months. She is my first child but has always been a big, bouncing baby so I don't feel like I need to monitor her.

I couldn't be bothered, either.

Unless the DC appear to be severely over/underweight, what does it matter?