AIBU to not want a drunk stag in my home?

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This is slightly weird and long so do forgive me and thanks in advance for reading.
My DH is best man to his best friend, let's call him Trevor. Trevor's df and my parents are having legal issues which has all become very nasty from their side. Even Trevor agrees with this btw.
So it's was Trevor's stag do yesterday and they all had a jolly time in the daytime. DH and Trev came back to our home (my dm had dd as I was going to sit round Trev's fiancées house and drink wine).
The boys went out and met up with everyone else.
Trev got really really drunk (standard) and needed to go home as he has been sick and had fallen over and cut his arm. The rest of the party we're say inside a curry house. The party included Trev's df, db and fil to be and bil to be.
The above all live in the same village, a 10 mins drive from where I live. Yet, I live a 10 minute walk from the curry house. My DH was starving and rather drunk (no being sick though) and suggested to all of the "village people" that someone takes Trev home. They all said no or ignores him. So DH walked him back to my house and rang on the way home. I was just about to get into bed myself and he asked me to get the first aid kit out as Trev had cut himself.

They walked in and DH allowed to Trev to plop himself on the sofa and lay there, I was in the kitchen at this point, routing around for plasters etc.
I told DH not to let him on the sofa as Trev was covered in blood on his arms and he had loads of make up on his face.
Anyway I suggested that DH calls Trev's dad to come and get on his way home and he just fannies about and really shouts at me and calls me names, tells me to stop interferring.

The upshot of it all is that they rang Trev's mum because would have needed to take the door off the latch and DH was really laughy jokey with her (she is vile and has been awful toward my family, my friend and her parents) DH says that he will get in the taxi with Trev and then come home again. About a £20 round trip. DH orders taxi and I suggest again in the meantime to try to get hold of his dad so he can swing buy ours and collect his ds. BTW Trev still lives at home with his parents.
Anyway DH finally managed to get hold of someone from the party and they confirmed they had all gone home now. Taxi didn't come for ages and just after it finally did arrive Trev's father rang my house and I answered. I haven't spoken to the man in 2 years and I really can't say what happened but he malice towards my family nearly caused an awful amount of harm.

If you really want to know I'll PM you if you ask but I can't say on here.
I wasn't rude to the man but I was chatty and polite either.
Anyway DH got home and did apologise for calling me names, nothing horrendous bit I certainly didn't deserve it.
He is so unpredictable when he drinks, he's either the life and soul or an argumentative arsehole.
I'm so pissed off!!!! Sorry for it being so long. Even if this isn't read it feels good to get it off my chest.

Because you can still be friends with someone despite family issues

Dunno. Would have thought the wedding day will be a bit tricky...

When I read this I genuinely thought you lived separately to your dh and I thought you had a point. It is very strange to describe your family home like this

This is not about sofas or stags or general drunkeness IMO: this is about your H turning in to an abusive twat when under the influence.
That, combined with the fact that his mother was an alcoholic (did I pick that one up right?) rings all kind of alarm bells for me.

If him becoming verbally abusive when under the influence is a recognisable pattern, you need to point this out to him and see if he is prepared to reduce his drinking (you don't have to be a shaking-in-the-morning-physically-dependent-alcoholic to be a problem drinker). If he gets defensive when you bring it up or is not prepared to change anything, then all you can do is decide how much of this you are prepared to put up with tbh.

Sorry, been out this afternoon for longer than had planned and haven't had a chance to look at this. I have however had a chance to talk to DH.

This morning I was shattered, pissed off and quite upset.

In my flustered anger I was quite possessive about our things because at the time it felt like I was the only one who respected the family home, therefore spent a couple of hours feeling rather entitled given that I'd been given a load of drunken verbal by DH and had a "well fuck him then" attitude.

I've already explained why I didn't want dd to come home to a bloke in drag in a state in the living room where she would want play. It is her home too. And there isn't a spare bed at the moment either.

Have spoken to DH, we are now both know where we stand and he understands that he was appalling to me. I haven't told him he can't drink again but if he having a night out and he will be drinking he should make arrangements to stay in a hotel or not not drink and come home.

Also I have no objection to people staying over if they have a few but right now the house is upside down due to building works going on and just isn't practical.

Anyway DH has apologised. I've apologised for getting in a pissy this morning too and being entitled.

Only time will tell if he sticks to it or not.

Thanks to everyone who offered advice. Definitely appreciated