To be pissed off at partner

[Oen1]

So Saturday night he went to the pub as usual (I don't mind this as it's the only night I watch crap any TV). Sunday night he went to the pub, although he did come back from there £80 richer having won the bingo. Today, we all went to pub for a meal to celebrate DS and my DB's birthdays. We all left at 6.45. Left partner there to "finish his pint". He rings me at 7.30 to say his sister and her daughter had arrived, he'd have a chat with them and would be home soon. At 10pm he walked through the door.

He's turned it around that I am being unreasonable. He doesn't see his sister very often (despite her only living 5 minutes down the road) and he can't understand why I'm so pissed off.

What do you think? AIBU in being really pissed off that for the 3rd night in a row he's been at the pub? For info, he's always been like this, but over the last few years had got better - I thought he was finally growing up a bit (he's only 45 for goodness sake).

I now have to wait for the snoring stage to be over before I can even consider going to bed.

What is the problem though? Could you not have stayed at the pub too? Did you need him at home?

3rd night in a row yes, but yesterday was a bank holiday, and you were celebrating birthdays and his sister turned up unexpectedly. He didn't come home mega late, did he? I think you are being a tad unreasonable if this is an isolated incident. Perhaps you could have said something before he went out on Sunday if you didn't want him going out three nights in a row?

PS Booze induced snoring is bloody unreasonable IMO

Is it the being out without you, or a financial concern you have, OP?

I think the thing that would bother me in this situation is presumably someone has to go home to take ds to bed. And he automatically assumes that's you - for 3 nights in a row on a bank holiday weekend. That your special treat is being able to sit on the sofa and watch crap telly while he gets 3 nights in the pub. That seems a bit unfair.