To give up having a lie in

[Messyliein]

DH just let's the DC run wild to a point it takes me 2 days to get the house sorted.

I will make sure DC eat and drink at the table other wise it get spilled all over the carpets, so mugging here has to scrub the stains out of the carpet.

Every toy box is emptied and the kitchen ends up being a bomb site.

I feel that nobody in this house respects what I do.

The only way for me to ensure the house stays tidy is for me to give up my lie in.

. . . Or talk to dh about how you're feeling and see if he can either make less mess or tidy up after himself?

I flipped for similar reasons yesterday bugs the shit out of me

I'm am dreading going to work this week, DH is off from work with the DC so I know I'm coming home to a pig sty.

This needs taking back to the essentials.

Ask your dh what his objectives are, when he gets up with the children. If one of the objectives is 'to give you a break', point out that leaving an extra 6 hours' work at the end of it means the objective is not achieved. Likewise, does he have anything about 'parenting' in the objectives? Because allowing your children to do anything they like is not the same thing.

Have your lie-in and then an afternoon away from them. Let your DH know in no uncertain terms that if the house isn't tidy then you are going to slacken the pace as well. It's just lazy parenting on his part, letting the kids do exactly as they want because he knows you will clean up after them

I need to do something because our marriage will not last if this continues.

Of course DC make mess, that why you have to minimise it.

I always seem to be tired.

Yep, definitely need to have a serious conversation with your DH.

And added to what pps have said, DO NOT come home from work and tidy up. Just go in sit down and have a cuppa, then play with dcs, followed by 'what's for supper?'

Realistic I can't leave the mess, I can't sleep knowing things have got to be done.

I know it sound illogical but having a home which is messy I can't cope with.