To wonder why some people bother with AIBU?

[Anonynony]

It really pisses me off when people cannot accept when they ABU.
Why even bother start a whole thread about about it and let people give their insights if you won't even stand back and look from their point of view?

A few of my AIBUs have been very eye opening and I've always taken everything on board, under different names I've had my DDs dad bringing her to Mcdonnalds every week, a guy that asked me on a date suggesting he buy the tickets and I buy the grub among a few others where I was most definitely being U and told in no uncertain terms!

So why do people bother writing here if they aren't willing to accept that they may be U? Is it just for a rant or hoping people will side with them and say how great they are?

Haha yes squoosh and it only got worse!

Hey, I remember your "ticket-gate" date Anon - I thought then that you were very receptive and came across as reasonable and able to see things from different points of view. And I'm not just saying that - I probably posted on there more than other threads because it was a really good conversation!

Nennypops I agree about the herd mentality - it's alive and kicking on AIBU!!

Lots of theories, mainly around pressure to conform with others and majority influence (even people who are strangers, which is interesting!) - the theory goes "we all want to be right, we all want to be liked" - so people don't want it to appear they are incorrect in their judgement so they will stick with what others have said. Also we all enjoy being liked by others, so are sometimes afraid to stick our neck out in the crowd as disruptive.

Then, as you rightly say, someone swings by wearing their their bomb-proof hat, hazmat suit to protect against flaming and says the opposite, so it gives people the cojones to go against the majority!

There are some quite viscious comments on AIBU - so I hope I won't get flamed for this! And we daren't say when we suspect people of being a troll, that's not on, either

Daisy! I remember you
That was a funny old thread but everybody was so lovely, even the ones who thought I was a horrid gold digger made their points well!

I just can't believe people waste their time and don't appreciate all the feedback because I genuinely think that certainly most posters are trying to help but I have also seen the other side where people get carried away and get a little bit too nasty.

I think it's great if you can totally disagree with someone on one thread, in a respectful way, and have a laugh with them on another. What I really don't like though (and is why I name changed) is when someone uses something from a past thread that's not entirely related and makes a judgement about you, strange how the opinion of a stranger actually can get to you when they're not just judging one incident, but rather you as a person, eek, not nice!!

I think yabu solely because of my thread which is about being embarrassed and going anyway, in which everyone has decided iavvvvvv u.

Aw Harriet I read your thread and think you sound like a wonderful wedding guest ! Just dying for a little dance!!
Did he ask?

I think its fine to ask AIBU and not be persuaded that you are.

Generally, when people ask AIBU they are 99% certain that they're not bu and are just seeking validation from other people.

I started a thread because I wanted a truthful reply, expected to get flamed and was very surprised and relieved to find support - which has meant that I didn't spend the entire day beating myself up!

I too have serious self-flagellation injuries after being given a complete hammering on AIBU, zeezeek so I know what you mean

Awww anon Im so sorry your lover boy ended up being a complete nightmare after all. Well, better luck next time!

I think it makes a difference whether there is actually an 'AIBU' at all, or if it's just using that topic as a (rather unpleasant) default.

If it's just discussion the OP wants, then even 'Chat' might be better (if newbie and unaware of topics).