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To ask for my champagne glasses back!

23 replies

movingalot · 20/04/2014 23:45

My parents v kindly stayed at ours to look after DD for a few days, as it happened that DH and I both had to be away for work at the same time.

It was my DF's birthday while they were here, so I left a bottle of champagne, a card, and two glasses in a gift bag for them to enjoy (obviously after DD was in bed!). I don't think they even drank the champagne, but only went and took the glasses with them when they left! I wouldn't mind if they were standard glasses, but they were v nice Vera Wang ones that were an engagement gift from SIL...

I put the lot in the gift bag so it would be like a surprise on the day of his bday, but didn't mean the glasses to be part of the gift, but obviously it looked like that, my fault completely Blush

I'm both annoyed, because I loved the glasses, but more so, also mortified that they must now think that I gave them v obviously used glasses as part of a gift Blush. Siblings and I also got him a large gift together, if that is of any relevance. So would it be the height of rudeness to say it to them? Or say it to DSis to say it to them in conversation? Or stay quiet?!

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BananaBumps · 20/04/2014 23:57

No idea how best to handle this, but I guess you won't put non-gift items in a gift bag again!

Famzilla · 20/04/2014 23:58

They're your parents, you should be able to just tell them the truth.

You could always do it in a jokey way?

Blondie1984 · 20/04/2014 23:58

Sorry but I think it sounds like you've lost your glasses...

TruJay · 21/04/2014 00:02

I can see why they thought u were gifting the glasses to them but hell if it was my mum there would be no issue in getting the glasses back in the slightest but i guess it depends on your relationship with them?

Poppiesway · 21/04/2014 00:02

I would mention it in conversation and say "do you know what happens to my glasses I left out for the champagne" "I can't find them in the cuboard etc"

fairylightsintheloft · 21/04/2014 00:05

they are your parents - can you not just tell them?

Nestabee · 21/04/2014 00:07

As they are your parents I think they will understand if you explain.

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movingalot · 21/04/2014 00:15

I don't mind them keeping the glasses, really, but it's more that I don't want them to think I gave them a secondhand gift! They are extremely generous and it's embarrassing! I should say it to DM tomorrow Blush

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TwelveLeggedWalk · 21/04/2014 00:20

I'd white lie this one 'Hope you enjoyed the champagne, really sorry but I think dh has made a silly mistake and put the wrong glasses in with it. I have some new ones for you here, can we swop nest time we see you?'
You'll need tomb another set, obviously!

BOEUFster · 21/04/2014 00:27

Just tell them they weren't part of the gift- it should be fine as they are your parents, not some neighbours you don't know.

BrianTheMole · 21/04/2014 00:29

Grin Did they look second hand?

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movingalot · 21/04/2014 00:58

Yes Brian they did! They have felt fabric at the base that was peeling off. There is no way they looked new...

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Monty27 · 21/04/2014 01:01

I really don't understand why you can't just tell them tbh Confused

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ravenAK · 21/04/2014 02:25

I'd go with TwelveLegged's suggestion.

Buy a pair of new champagne glasses & 'explain' that you put the gift bag together whilst hurriedly packing, just to see if it'd all fit in the bag, & then in all the rush d'oh! You forgot to substitute the new, gift glasses you'd bought your dad for your own ones!

That way even if they say they're happy with your 'old' glasses you have a get-out to explain that actually they have sentimental value/were a gift from SIL.

Obviously you have to buy nice glasses now, as anything less posh than yours will look a bit obvious, but apart from that I reckon you'll get away with it!

WaitMonkey · 21/04/2014 07:07

They are your parent's. Just tell them.

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 21/04/2014 07:13

I agree that if you can afford it, replace them and go a swap.

TurnOverTheTv · 21/04/2014 07:18

I can't understand why you don't just ask for them back? It seems pretty simple to me unless you have a problem with your parents.

Squirrelsmum · 21/04/2014 07:21

Just go over with a new set, boxed and wrapped and say there was a mix up.

lanbro · 21/04/2014 07:22

This is madness, just tell them and you'll all have a laugh about it! I wouldn't even think twice about telling my parents let alone come on a forum to ask opinions!

OnaPromise · 21/04/2014 07:24

Just tell them the truth. Have a laugh about it.

TartanRug · 21/04/2014 07:26

Agree, just tell them! They'll probably beortified that they took them (though they obv thought they were a gift, given that they were in a gift bag).

Floggingmolly · 21/04/2014 07:34

You put them in a gift bag!! Why? Confused. They won't be mortified at all, they'll think you gave them a gift and then thought better of it and want it back.
How in the name of a God were they supposed to know the glasses were on loan only? In your place, I'd let it go, tbh.
Asking for them back makes you look really small.

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