Will having 2 'nannies' cause a problem?

[Nestabee]

My dm has been Nannie since ds was born.

Mil has recently become involved in our lives again and when we asked what she wanted to be called she said Nannie and we said yes as we didn't think the 2 nannies would ever meet etc.

Anyway am expecting dc2 and my dm will be staying for a while and so will likely meet mil.

Will this be a problem do you think? Can you have 2 grandparents called the same thing?

Because when you have a Granny Smith you just have to .

I can't help feeling it might be wise to introduce a naming scheme for DS - Nannie+Name or somesuch - just in case he randomly invents his own, which may not be diplomatic ...

Sounds like you've got quite the drama going on in the background there, Nesta. Hope everything goes well!

My dc have 5 'nannies' (my mum, my stepmum, my step mums mum, the exs mum and his gran) they are mamgu, nanny first name, nanny *first name, nanny-in-London and nanny-in-Brighton) lol

RiverTam, because sometimes grandparents have the same first names as each other; I had Grandpa Surname1 and Grandpa Surname2 otherwise I'd have had two Grandpas called Grandpa John which wouldn't really have been much use in terms of identifying which one I was talking about.

My DH's grandmothers were named after their dogs; Granny Cleo and Granny Goldie.

OP - Do you talk to either party often? Perhaps you could slip into conversation that Nannie X is going to be there? Sort of like "You'll finally be able to meet DS's Nannie X, that's DH's mother" and vice versa for the other one.

There's bound to be jealousy. Who gets to spend more time with who etc but try and remember it comes from love...

My niece refers to black nanny and white nanny, which does cause some confusion amongst strangers since they are both white.... It's based on hair colour though - my mother has brown hair and is black nanny, and her other nanny has grey hair and is white nanny.

My nephew has silly grandad and friendly grandad. Nobody is entirely sure where the 'friendly' came from since he very rarely sees him and he's not particularly friendly, but once it is in their heads you can't change their minds!

I thought this thread was going to be about 2 x paid professional chilcare, and was coming on to gawp at the first world problems. Quite disappointed.

Me, too. I was imagining nannies arguing over bedtimes, etc. This is less fun.

My children call all of their grandparents Grandma and Grandpa. My father passed away when my oldest was an infant, so he called my mother Grandma, and my FIL Grandpa, and my husband's mother Grandma (first name) and her husband Grandpa (first name). I call my grandparents Grandma and Grandpa Smith and Grandma and Grandpa Jones, IYSWIM.

Our are both grandma. Aussie Grandma and Racist Grandma. OK, those are our nicknames but the kids have always known who's who.

I know a Granny Ann (not my Granny, but I love it).

We have Granny and Grandad , grandma and granda (although its changing to grandad , nana and papa (my grandparents, except papa is dead now) and Gran (XHs Gran)

Both Grandads are called the same first name so no luck there.

I had Grandad and Grandad Jack, as I hardly saw Grandad Jack, and Nana.

I've got two grandads and there has never been any confusion (probably because I call my grandmothers different things). We never used names (I'm really not keen on that).

We have one called Granny and the other called Granny Jane (not their real name)

We have Nanan (Great Grandma on exs side, Italian, its what he called her as a child as he couldn't pronounce Nonna, and its stuck!) Exs Mum is Nonna.

On my side we have Mamma (my wonderful step mum) and Grandma Kath (my equally wonderful Grandma, so another Great Grandma)

They also have 2 Grandads and 1 Great Grandad and they're all referred to by their surnames to avoid confusion.

My nieces have to aunty Hamptons so I am Aunty Hampton Cake

OP is there another reason why you are anxious about MIL coming? Obviously you have been NC with her for some reason.

two AGGHH!

Oh and yes, don't leave it to the kids. My DDs friend has a "Grandad The Racist"

It can be fine of course, however my dad was grandpa and my fil insisted on being 'granpa' saying it as different because it leant had a 'd' in it. Because obviously a small child will know this....

I was too tired, sleep deprived etc to argue (and my PIL are very difficult people) but since then my dad has died and it breaks my heart hearing mil and fil talking about him being grandpa so we call him 'grandpa his name'. Mil also delights in telling dd that he is 'her only grandpa' which makes me feel sick she is so cruel. Dad has only been dead a year....

But if you all get on and there are no issues then I'm sure there won't be a problem.

I had 4 Grannies growing up and named them after the towns they lived in.

NestaBee, funny enough mine did that too! I had Nanny (X) and Nanny (Y) during childhood, so when DC1 came along assumed DM would want to be Nanny. DP had two grannies growing up, so thought his mum would be granny. How wrong were we?!

DM kicked off that a nanny is just a babysitter, she should mean much more to the baby than that. MIL decided she was too old to be a granny, she should be Nan. No pleasing some people

I overheard a little boy on the bus asking if they were going to Nanny Bingo's house

I aspire to be a nanny bingo when the time comes

We have two grandmas. In theory they are grandma jean and grandma Joan. In reality my mum is grandma and ds's mum is grandma Joan. Mwah ha ha. Don't tell dh!

We have colour coded grandads. dS1 came up with the idea based on their front doors.

We had 2 Nannys, Nanny & Nanny it was never an issue.