to be pissed off at DP?!

[ArtyFartyQueen]

DP is in a mood with me because my family (my uncle and aunt) have invited us to lunch tomorrow on the way back home after spending the weekend with his family and he doesn't want to go!

My family are quite different to his admittedly, but it's been a rough couple of years with my Mum and Sister dying so it is important for me to see them sometimes.

I'm really pissed off at DP, who doesn't want to give up a couple hours of his weekend to see my family, just because he thinks they are a bit pompous (not rude or nasty, just not his type of people!) I just think he is being incredibly selfish and I wouldn't even dream of not going to see any of his family and friends in the same situation (even if I didn't particularly get on with them)

Please excuse the grammar mistake in my title...it should of course be with DP rather than at!

why does he have to go, just go by yourself and enjoy it without his moany face

He has to go as we were going on the way back from his parents house, plus I think he should bloody well make the effort, he hardly ever see's my family (we're talking about once a year at the most!)

At is perfectly fine, for reason if not grammar. It adds a certain frisson of you contemplating launching a deliberate act instead of just sitting absorbing some horror or other.

He is being unreasonable but I am sympathetic. A weekend with one side of the family is trying enough. Adding the need to be witty and pleasant for a lunch, just when you think you have escaped could be construed as torturous behaviour.

Yanbu but I agree with eyeroller. Tell him he doesn't have to go and you'll drop him at a train station to make his own way home. Enjoy seeing your family.

So weekend with his-one meal with yours?

Sounds OK!

"A weekend with one side of the family is trying enough."

Which OP has just put up with!

Next time, less time wiith his family & then any time with yours won't seem like a trial to him!

Are you quite a way from his family such that the whole weekend was necessary??

It was his family he just put up with too! Sometimes they are worse!

Next time switch the time scales or just organise 1 day trips to each.

It isn't worth a huge row over. Just sort out what your tolerance levels are and work to them!

Oh yes, but if he finds his own family hard, why go for a weekend?
(unless distance dictates)

It can be annoying when you think you're off home to wind down & another thing to do comes up.

Easy to see why it's important to OP though.

I really think he could make the bloody effort. I drive down to his parents and have been stuck inside their house all weekend, because he wants to spend time with his parents (bit they don't like going out) and have been trying to entertain the dc's! I make the effort so why can't he?!

Well either he does it tomorrow or next weekend thus losing both weekends. If he does tomorrow you both get next week back.

Can't do it next weekend Sunny unfortunately as I work most weekends! We've spent the whole evening ignoring the subject - very mature but it's tricky to have an argument in his parents house!