AIBU about having a lie in?

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My sister, husband and 2 nephews here (7 & 9). They are leaving at 9am today.

They are sleeping with my 3 DC 12, 14 and 16 who were looking forward to having a lie in over the bank holiday weekend. We did Easter yesterday due to early start today.

However nephews have got up at 6 fucking 45 run around the house shouting, jumped down each individual stair playing a game and woken the entire house up.

I was planning on getting up to say goodbye at 8.30 but AIBU to think this is really fucking inconsiderate.

Also does not make her children help with anything (loading dishwasher/clearing table) while mine do.

I think YABU

They're kids and probably excited because they're going back home today. Go make your guests some food and a coffee before they go and then go back to bed once they've left. It's not rocket science.

Oh, and I wouldn't expect GUESTS to help out in my own home! How entitled is that?! You're the guest, you host them. They get to relax and not do anything.

"You're the guest, you host them. They get to relax and not do anything."

Different people see that differently. Don't think it warrants a "How entitled!"

YANBU.

7 and 9 is old enough to play quietly and be considerate, they are not toddlers. I think your teenagers deserve a lie in on their holiday weekend, I know how much I would have at that age.

I'm staying at my parents' house with my DP & 6 month old DD plus my sister, her DP and 5&3 year old. So far no one has woken any one else up across families (IYSWIM) - it's all about how you manage your own children's noise levels as reasonably as you can.

I expect you've all had a great, fun weekend and you've been hosting / entertaining / cooking. If you'd left out breakfast stuff and got up to say goodbye that would be fine by me.

Once they've gone you could always go back to bed.

I would not go and stays at someones house and expect to sit on my arse while they ran about after me. How fucking lazy and entitled is that?!

It depends on the household, to us 6.45 isn't early but to you that might be middle of the night territory.

Your sis might be just as hungover and letting them run off steam before a quiet car trip home, it's still inconsiderate.

I think your sis is in the wrong here to be honest. Did she get up when her kids were running round your house? My kids are 9, 5 and 2 and wouldn't do that. When we stay in a hotel or B&B we make they stay quiet if they wake early. To me early is before 8am.

In fact, hubby and I take turns to lie in at the weekends and we try and keep the children quiet even then.

This is my pet hate. The defeatist attitude that kids will be kids and letting them run riot at the crack of dawn when others are asleep is wrong in my opinion.

It's consideration for others. Even adults are late or early risers. Would you expect an early rising adult in your home to be blasting music and slamming doors at 6am when the rest of the house is asleep? Obviously there is only so much you can do to keep kids quiet but an effort should be made. Bung the telly on and tell them to be quiet till a more reasonable hour.

OP you ANBU. However I suspect I'll be in the minority. However I need my sleep ;)

It would give me the rage too, OP. But it is to be expected and theres not a whole lot you can do about it. Sorry.

though as a Nanny it is my job to keep the kids quiet in the morning which is more than doable

I think YANBU, they aren't babies / toddlers. Mine are 8 and 5 and perfectly able to occupy themselves quietly when they wake up earlier than everyone else. We stay at my mum's every Christmas and no way would they be allowed to run about creating a din at 6.45AM! They either read in bed or creep downstairs to draw / watch TV with the volume low.

Would not expect them to empty dishwashers etc though.

I would not go and stays at someones house and expect to sit on my arse while they ran about after me.

Ahh but then someone would run onto mn and moan about you interfering in their routine :)

Eyeroller - you are probably right