To be pissed off with OH for totally spoiling the surprise?

[Woobeedoo]

I have a voice of reason in my head telling me I'm being childish over this but I am so pissed at my OH right now - just need to know if I'm an over-hormonal woman who needs to chill or if I'm perfectly OK in wanting to swear violently at him.

SO. I have a big birthday coming up in a few months which I've not given any thought to regards gift wish-lists (OHs family always ask OH to find out what I'd like and as he doesn't know how to be stealth about it, he asks me outright. I'm used to the in-laws gift never being a surprise).

But what pished me the fug off was when we were sitting on the sofa, OH shows me a text on his phone and with a smirk says "Read this". I read it to see that its actually a text from my friend saying "Do you think Woobee would like this Pandora bracelet for her birthday?". Now, my OH runs his own business so my friend has taken the time to Google him to find his website and contact info so she can be stealth. And that fucking moron idiot has totally wrecked the surprise.

What pisses me off the most (but it can't really be compared as a like for like) is that when we found out I was pregnant [thru ICSI] OH wanted the sex of the baby to be a surprise whereas I wanted to know. I found out the sex and didn't tell him at all even when I was giving birth, the head was crowning and he said "You may as well tell me now" I replied "No, you'll find out yourself in a moment". If I can keep my trap shut with a pretty amazing secret for 5months, am I being unreasonable in expecting him to be able to keep his mouth shut too?

If my husband had done the same thing and it was something I liked then I would be excited not annoyed that a surprise had been spoilt. I can't be bothered to get upset about a surprise tbh.
What a thoughtful friend though and I hope you like the gift she has chosen for you and you have a nice birthday despite that surprise bring spoilt for you.
I would have preferred a new game but that's because I'm a massive gamer and I would have to chose it myself so GAME vouchers would probably be better.

What would you like for your birthday? Have you actually answered him/given him answers for your in-laws? Some people are worried about getting it wrong..so I do not think it odd to ask/check. Maybe they find you difficult to buy for...hence the need to check.

You do need to ask him not to spoil surprises. But I also think you need to grow up a bit. "Birthday surprises" seem to be more for 10 year olds tbh

He was being nasty but I wouldn't let on to your friend as she was trying hard to be lovely which is unfair, as it's another secret for you to keep.

YABU.

I don't understand the need for birthday surprises, it's a day. If you're lucky you get gifts, if you know what's coming surely that's more exciting than a random gift.

I've had to train my DH and family. As I'm the one usually doing all the organising in our family, I've told everyone that what I'd like most on birthdays and Christmas is to be surprised.

Unfortunately they all were guilty of blabbing but that's because they were do excited about pleasing me they couldn't hold it in. I left it till afterwards one year (so as to not upset them) and told them how happy I was with the day but what would have made it even better was it being a surprise. They were surprised but have complied ever since.

Yanbu, what a git. Please don't make it into a big stooshie though by texting your friend.

It's still a lovely gift, just get your OMG face ready on the day.