And that we should accept that the choice that works best for our own family and circumstances may not be the right choice for another family and their circumstances?
I have done both, though I wasn't a WOHM for long. There are things that make me very glad I got to be a SAHM, and things that make me hanker to be a WOHM. The one thing I am sure of is that the vast majority of parents make the best choices they can for their family, and that the vast majority also worry about whether they have made the right decision - we all second- third- and fourth-guess our decisions and choices.
I think sometimes, some people fall into the trap of criticising those who,have made the opposite choice to them, because it makes them feel better about their decision if they can 'prove' it is the right decision - because the other decision is 'wrong'. But we don't need to do that.
I genuinely think that mothers, in particular, are already way too good at self-criticism, and we don't need to be getting any more from other people.
Have confidence in the decision you have made - don't listen to critical voices who are trying to put you down to prove themselves right - and let other people make a different decision to you without worrying that their decision makes yours wrong.
Probably not something that people on here need to hear, but I felt like saying it.