Aibu to go back to work pregnant

[Amiasbadasthem]

My workplace were very unhelpful last year as after I suffered a miscarriage with my first pregnancy I was told to sort it out and get back to work ASAP. I then fell pregnant again and Unfortunately was in and out of hospital during the pregnancy. I am now off on maternity and have a perfect dc :) I had a meeting a couple of weeks ago and was told they were restructuring meaning I had no choice but to take a slightly different role on my return or given my new circumstances I may wish to consider resigning my post. It would also mean that there would be another manager above my managerial position. I have been told I couldn't go for the new role because of my sickness absence and it was implied my age. I have been praised a lot during my career for the work I have done so this upset me. I have since found out someone that is in my team will be likely to become my manager.... There is more to this story but don't want to be recognised. Anyway myself and my husband had been considering having another child, but before the meeting I felt a duty to return to work for a while before trying as I didn't/don't want to let anyone down. ( I have unloved 3 days off ill in my whole career before becoming pregnant) Now I'm just thinking that waiting is silly (especially as if an illness returns children will be out of the question) would ibu to go back to work pregnant then go in maternity leave soon after which would entitle me to full maternity pay again (if I am lucky enough to become pregnant again).

I recognise zeezeek's name from another thread about maternity and work...

In relation to ZeeZeeks comments I actually went in the morning I after the night I had spent in hospital finding out about the misscarriage. My line manager took one look at me and said you are not fit to be here, however my boss said 'get a d and c and come straight back to work, there is no need to drag it out!' A little harsh I think. I did infact go back in after a couple of days to be told the day I returned that I was being monitored that day.
During my pregnancy I was hospitalised 6 times in the first few weeks for severe morning sickness and on iv fluids. I suffered sickness throughout. I then went into early labour at 29 weeks. Despite being told I was to be on bed rest I went into work until it all just became too much. I know a lot of people have a lot of pregnancy issues and a lot more severe than me, with much harsher outcomes but I didn't ask for it, infact me being at work could well have been activating it further.
In terms of it being tit for tat, I was all set for going back even though personally I wanted another child soon due to previous illness, however as I thought about it more I felt actually having more time off sick in pregnancy was unfair so actually if I'm ill I will be on maternity most the time and I'm the one that takes more of the hit then due to pay. Anyway, thanks to everyone's support, I have put so much into my job and achieved great results, if this is how women are treated for choosing to have children then it is wrong. Why should we have to give up on ambitions because of it? So sad to hear so many others have suffered to!

I went back to work with an 8 month old 4 months' pregnant. Work have been fine with me (though I'm sure there were some 'FFS!' muttered when they found out).

I'll have worked 3 months once I finish again (annual leave before mat leave).

Your firm haven't treated you that well, so I'd have no qualms in your shoes going back pregnant.

OP listen to the advice about pregnancy sickness not being able to be taken into account. And any references to your age are obviously against the law too. Those working in the public sector should know better. You should get anything in writing and if you genuinely feel the are discriminating against you take legal advice. Decide when you really want to have a baby (ignore doing it out of spite or conversely not doing it out of loyalty) and work from there.