Ok I know MILs get a lot of negative press, but pleAse bare with as mine is a genuine cunt !
Basically I fell out with inlaws after mil told me (unnecessarily so) dh and I should split up and basically had a go at me after me and dh had an argument (that was his basterd fault)...
I stuck up for myself to mil which resulted in sil threatening to 'smack me one' (classy, I know)
I am sorry to bore you with all this but it is necessary ... Basically for the greater good of my family (and for a quiet life) I forgave the mil and sil. However, they have refused to forgive my mum (who basically had a go at them for the way they treated me / bullied me)
Now it was recently a party that required all the fam there. Mil and sil swanned in and blanked my mum, who did look over at them to atleast try and say a hello- but they didn't even acknowledge her. They then sat at the party away from everyone and ignored everyone despite knowing people there. I continually went over to them and made an effort , despite them ignoring my mum. Several times dh snapped at me - i later found out his mum was stressing him out as usual by requesting he collects something for her in 3 weeks time! (Despite having plenty of other family members who could, she constantly puts on my dh - who has a family and works two fuming jobs) so he was stressed which resulted in him being snappy with me (he is An idiot at times)
When we got home dh was upset as he had ended up snapping at his mum for going on at him at a party about something 3 week away. He couldn't get hold her via phone and ended up texting her saying sorry for being stressed. I said to him why should he say sorry to her, he is enabling her martyr behaviour by chasing her and apologising despite it being her fault (she does this ALOT to dh) knows he worries about her but craves the attention ...
AIBU to think fuck his stupid mother and sil - they have had the chance to reconcile with my mum, as I had to with them (after they did far worse to me I may add!)
I did think bein nice and seeing them would be good for our family, now I just think his mil is trouble maker -who stresses dh out and I get it in the neck too. If I have nothing to do with her i wont have to tolerate all her bullshit.
Why should I be nice and tolerate her if she isn't even willing to do the same for me my dh and my mum??
I know family is family but she is really do no good for mine as far as I can see... I would never stop dh seeing her or dd, but I just feel time after time she causes an atmosphere and makes eveything about her. Just to add, I am not the only to feel this way- she has a strained rlship with her father and sister (because they basically dare to tell her to get a grip)