to think DP is being daft?

[EyelinerQueen]

I was admitted to hospital at New Year with some pretty scary symptoms that had been going on a while. Was also pregnant (26 weeks now). I was diagnosed as having hyperthyroidism caused by Graves Disease. I'm feeling loads better and being monitored regularly by consultants. I'm also taking hefty doses of a thyroid drug twice a day.

DP is great and has been nothing but supportive. There's just one wee thing making me slightly .

When I'm taking my pills he makes a big fuss of taking his too. He says things like

"Oh I mustn't forget to pack my pills for the holiday".

and "Here's your pills - I need to take mine now too."

with a great big serious face.

His pill is a multivitamin bought in Boots .

AIBU to think he's being a competitive manbaby?!

*Disclaimer: lighthearted. Hopefully that's already clear. I'm not going to LTB .

Is he trying to do a "we're all in this together"? I can see how that would get old really fast.

Have you told him that it winds you up? It might just be a coping mechanism - it's scary for him too - or it might be misplaced sympathy, but you should be able to tell him you don't find it funny and would appreciate it if he'd stop.

Ruthless I don't so - it seems to be more of a slightly passive aggressive "I'm sick too" thing.

Even though he's not .

I'm not sure if he's even aware he's doing it. Next time I might just tell him to wind his neck in .

OMFG. I'd have to kill him.

Haha. Awww bless. imagine what he's going to be like when your both old and on a cocktail of meds four times a day. In fact you've got a keeper there that could come in handy!

He sounds like a sweetie.

He sounds like a pain in the arse.

He sounds sweet

Get one of those weekly pill boxes for him and put little love notes in each section. Or put in notes of the chores he needs to do instead!!!

Tell him to stop and tell him why. He probably doesn't even realise it's annoying you.

Tell him not to worry as nothing fatal will happen if he forgets his very important pills for a week, or even two. That might help remind him that they are only vitamins...

People are weird about medicines!

My parents used to shout at my sister when she took her (loads of) medications. My sister insisted on keeping them in the kitchen as alot were 'take directly before eating' types of tablets. It was a Mexican stand off - arghhh! My parents felt like she was making a fuss about nothing and deliberately trying to get on their nerves. My sister felt like they wanted her to prioritise their emotional need for denial (she was very very ill) over her physical needs.

I on the other hand hide my medicines in my room (although i live on my own!) and don't take them in front of other people ever. I think loved ones are weird about the trappings of illness and I can't be bothered to deal with it.

Oh, with the exception of sometimes at work I might pop a pill or take some morphine in informal team meetings. Its a very hip and informal workplace, and they do forget that I'm not just the unfashionable fat one who sits on sofas alot through choice, and theres a reason why i have to be that person. It would be silly to go out of the room with my bag and then return again - more obvious / ostentatious that way actually, as it is I can normalize it by taking medicine casually in front of them.

Anyway, with your silly dp (!)... Can you work out whether he's doing it to join in and show support, or as a 'mee too' kind of annoying ness? The latter would be winding me up! It's like he's attention seeking, trying to take the focus or seriousness away from your illness and get the status auo back to not having to care about your illness. Grrrrr!

For the first one I'd just give him a hug and tell him it's sweet but maybe he can stop now! And for the second I'd be honing a pithy response that highlights how ridiculous he's being, without opening it up for a big discussion.