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awkward situation between husband and grandmother, What should i do AIBU

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pinkpompomispretty · 18/04/2014 23:12

Hi
Im hoping someone can help. I don't know if im being unreasonable or not. Tonight my hubby dropped my grandmother home after staying for some dinner. I see her 2-3 times a week and she is very attention seeking. Shes in her mid 60s a bit of a drama queen and always been a bit outspoken and to be completely honest a bit selfish. Anyway, my hubby gives her a lift home each week and she is often very flirtatious and over friendly. Tonight she started discussing very personal things with him about her sex life, saying how he doesn't/cant perform she isn't satisfied, how he isnt "big enough" for her, how he has to take Viagra etc. Obviously hubby was very embarrassed and didn't really know what to say. This isnt the first time she has got on like this though it isnt usually as bad. Most weeks she flirty but I ignore it. A while ago she said to him whilst I was out of the room about how "inexperienced" I was (not that she would or could ever know) and how he needed someone with a bit more experience and rubbed his leg- to which he got up and left the room. Am I unreasonable to be really upset by her behaviour. Im currently 32 weeks pregnant and just feel its so disrespectful for her to say these things and act this way. She knows perfectly well what she is doing and acts very young for her age. Just don't know how to approach this situation.
Thanks

OP posts:
pinkpompomispretty · 18/04/2014 23:13

Sorry "he" being her husband.

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smartypants1000 · 18/04/2014 23:15

Is this a joke? If not, I suggest you and dh sit down together with her as a united front and explain that this behaviour is inappropriate and unacceptable. And see a lot less of her. Alternatively, don't see her at all!

NeedsAsockamnesty · 18/04/2014 23:16

I think YANBU and you need to stop putting your DH in this position. She us sexually harassing him so if your unable to challenge her protect him and let him protect himself by not putting him in contact with her.

Roshbegosh · 18/04/2014 23:16

Why on earth do you see her so often, she sounds awful. I would reduce the contact with her massively. How embarrassing for you and DH that she makes such a tit of herself.

WorraLiberty · 18/04/2014 23:17

Well either you or your DH (or both of you) are going to have to tell her straight out that this is unacceptable behaviour.

Don't let her get away with it.

If she was male, there would be cries of 'filthy old perv' and to be honest I don't see her as any different.

Is this the sort of person you really want around your family?

DamnBamboo · 18/04/2014 23:20

Why have you posted this twice?

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