in being annoyed at DP being in the pub

[MyNameIsntTash]

AIBU to be sat at home annoyed that DP has gone to the pub. He has been out all day on a bike ride and stopped at the pub on way home for a pint and is now staying for the duration with a friend. I know he won't be back til late now as it's always the same. I asked the other day, and again earlier, for him to try get back for 6pm (did a 40 mile route so unsure how long it would take) so I can go do my exercise class. He doesn't see the problem as I have been twice this week and can just go in the morning instead, as it's an outdoor bootcamp so always same sort of thing. I see his point but jealous I am now home tonight and he is at the pub when I wanted to do my exercise session. AIBU to be sat here annoyed at him?!?

I'd also be pretty annoyed that he hadn't seen his son for much of today, which presumably is a precious holiday. And I'd allow 4 hours for a reasonably sedentary man to do a bike ride too, not all day.

But I suspect I'm not helping so will bow out.

So basically...
"Yeah yeah I'll be back......oh, drinks with a mate or back home so the wife can do her class.....nah, Fuck her, get the beers in!"

Its a total lack of consideration and respect. How would it be if you suddenly decided that actually, he cant go on his planned bike ride because you are going out so he will have to stay at home with the DC? Bet that would go down well....not!

He has done this because he knows there is absolutely not one single thing you can do about it. You are home with the child, he is out, he is staying out, tough shit...deal with it.

Never mind "AIBU",. I would be fucking incandescent if my OH showed me such a lack of respect. I would be questioning whether he actually gave a shit about me and my feelings at all!

He's home, got back around half hour ago so has seen DS and helped put him to bed. I told him I was disappointed about missing my session and he said we can't revolve everything around my exercise classes. (Apparently we can around the pub though

He does think I'm addicted (I am I suppose!) and in fairness, when he goes out on a Friday if he get an early finish at work he does make sure he's back from the pub in time for me to go, so only has a couple of pints. This is when he'd go again on a Sunday afternoon usually though.

Sometimes I think I'm being unreasonable in moaning about time spent in the pub, but he is a good father, and will now spend until Tuesday with us, and we have a day out planned Sunday.

Thanks for all your thoughts.

Yabu.

And a bit selfish.

Yabu And a bit selfish.

Yeah she is. For wanting him to do what he said he would do and not fucking off to the pub for 4 hours after leaving her alone all day! What a bitch!

Myname

Have you added up the hours you have "off" compared to his? Do they compare?

Unless your hours are more than his, I do not think that you are being at all selfish.

I think YABU but I do understand.

I did say earlier in the thread that I understood why the op was narked, and it seems mostly down to a bit of (understandable) envy that her dp was in the pub on a sunny afternoon. However expecting him to bend to her arrangements at all times is selfish.