To not have alcohol at ds's christening party?

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My ds is being christened on Sunday and we have hired a small hall for a party to celebrate the event.

For various reasons we haven't bought any alcohol for the party;

1. Some of my family members can get a bit "giddy" with alcohol but not in a good way and I don't want my son's christening to be spoiled (other family events have been spoiled in this way)

1. We have spent quite a lot on food/tea/coffee and fruit juices already to make sure everyone can enjoy the buffet and providing alcohol for around 25 people would be costly.

To me, dh, his family and some of mine it won't matter at all but I have a feeling some people are going to be 'put out' and find it odd.

I know it's our day etc. but does anyone think it's unreasonable to not have alcohol?

YANBU. Sounds very sensible and I would enjoy the day.

Well it's tough then isn't it. It is a christening not a 21st birthday party.

I hope you have a lovely day.

Yanbu, it's a christening in the day, wouldn't cross most people's minds. They can always leave early and go to the pub if annoyed.

Well no ones going to collapse as there isn't alcohol so let them get on with it. It's only a short time out their day they can have a drink at home.

Have a lovely day :)

YANBU - it's for a baby. If they don't like it they can go elsewhere.

YAnBU- I would do the same. The people who are out out are generally the ones have have a problem with booze. Sod them!

Put out*

YANBU

So what if people are put out. Christenings are never very boozy in my experience anyway.

Tbh them sort of people will probably just disappear to the local pub, so it should be even nicer.

YANBU, although I think it's nice to have a glass of champagne for everyone, I certainly wouldn't expect it.

Yanbu!

One of my overriding memories of ds christening is of everyone getting drunk in the kitchen while ds sat with me in the living room, overwhelmed by the noise and the people.

They ended up all leaving on mass to go to town, and whilst I was incredibly glad everyone had buggered off, I was sad that the occasion which has meant so much to me had been so blatantly used as a piss up to them.

Neither OH's family nor mine see christenings as an excuse for a piss up anyway. We did have some bubbly at ours, but it was more of a token glass, and most people drank tea.

Sounds perfect to me,

I never drink alcohol of any kind so your DS's Christening sounds like my ideal party

Fruit juices and coffee would suit me just fine, and I think most people would agree with that at a Christening.

I think that we may have had enough for people to have had one glass of something.
And that might have been by luck rather than design!
It's often more of an afternoon tea idea isn't it?
There's some "refreshment" laid on as that seems to be the done thing.
Not usually a full meal or booze enough to get wasted on.

I don't see christenings as boozy affairs, although I would probably supply a glass of champagne to toast the baby with. Don't think it matters at all if you have no alcohol whatsoever though.

Your party, your day. You do it as you wish. It wouldn't be a problem to me to have no alcohol there.

I do know where you are coming from with regard to alcohol causing problems at family gatherings, as it has in our wider family too. I don't blame you for not getting any.

I might have just enough champagne or cava to toast the baby with, but otherwise people can bugger off to the pub if they are that bothered.

Yanbu. There is absolutely no reason why you have to. I would probably just provide one glass of fizz, but i cretainly wouldn't be put out if I went to a booze free christening.

I don't think I have ever been to a christening without booze, but they have never been boozy affairs as most people drive in my experience. If I were not driving I would probably be slightly surprised not to see some booze, but it's up to you.

YANBU, I have never understood this thing with Christenings and Children's parties having to end in a piss up for the adults.

Sounds like you have put plenty of effort and money into making sure there is nice food and non- alcoholic drinks for people to enjoy, i think that's plenty.

YANBU.

And I say that as someone who held christening parties in pub gardens.

Obviously do what you want, it is your party.

But I do think it is unusual not to provide a small amount of alcohol. I wouldn't expect there to be enough for people to get pissed though, just a small glass or two.

I would be a bit suprised that booze wasn't provided as normally there is at least a choice of a glass of wine or a beer if people want but I wouldn't give it more than just a quick "oh well never mind" type thought.

So not unreasonable at all, just different from what I would expect

It's never compulsory to provide alcohol.

If your guests cannot manage without it, they'll have to make excuses to leave early. (I think that would be rather shabby, but there will be people who prefer to choose alcohol).

All christenings I have been to have provided a small amount of alcohol though not enough to get inebriated. IMO as its mainly adults attending (i assume?) it is common practice to offer a glass of wine or beer at a celebratory event. If its not enough for some, they can leave and head to the pub. It's up to you, but I'm not sure i am in agreement with most here....