To want to bag up 90% of DD toys

[Pumpkinette]

and hand them into a charity shop?

She is 4 and has far too many toys. Whilst I do admit to buying some of them, the majority have been gifts for my mum. I wouldn't mind so much but its turning my daughter into a spoilt child.

She has no respect for her possessions and if something breaks she just shrugs her shoulders and says 'you or gran can just buy me a new one'. She winges for a new toy every time we go out. I don't indulge her but my mum does.

I have asked my mum on several occasions to stop buying her so much stuff. My mum has admitted she does it because she didn't have the money when I was young to buy me lots of toys and she says childhood is too short not to indulge them. I've also said not to send over anymore toys (and she has cut back on wht she sends over) but she has a spare room at her house and its full to the brim with toys (what child needs 4 push scooters, an electric scooter and an electric car at thier grand parents house?). It's getting to the stage now I'm making excuses to not let my daughter go visit my mum.

So I want to clear out the toys. I want DD to appreciate what she has and I think less toys is the way to go. AIBU?

Rather than clearing out the toys yourself, could you do it with your daughter and get her to choose toys she passes onto children less fortunate than her at the moment e.g. donate to DV shelter.

Have a frank conversation with your Mum and explain what you have said in your post about making excuses so your daughter doesn't go to visit your Mum.
If she wants to do something £ wise maybe she could put some money into a saving account for your daughter for the future.

But really spending time and doing things together is the most important thing.

Do it. Keep half of what you bag up somewhere in your loft or garage so you can swap around for variety. Donate the rest.

I can see your DM loves to indulge her DGC. I agree with the pp it's time spent poddling around with little ones that counts for a lot. So often with our own DCs spare time is a luxury. The money she spends is obviously hers to do with as she pleases but a piggy bank with cash for a trip out as oppised to duplucate toys en masse might make for lasting memories.

Sorry for fumbled typing there.

Yanbu

House full of too many toys is irritating!

We specific family buy the dc clothes as gifts a lot of the time as we have three and too many toys

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I think it's a really good idea to involve your child in selecting toys to go to less fortunate children. Kids tend to really get behind the idea of themselves as little saints

I have a really good charity shop nearby that specialises in baby and child toys/ clothes and equipment. The funds go to local community projects and classes that they run in the shop.

I have tried to get DD involved in clearouts before but she hates parting with her stuff (even if its broken) I will try again now she is a bit older she might be a bit more inclined to give old toys away.

I will have a word with my mum again, hopefully this time she will listen. I don't want to appear ungrateful but it really can't go on like this. Thanks everyone.

Just clear them put. If she is 4 and whining about giving tos away (pretty normal!) just do it when she's not there.

I did a charity clear out before Christmas. DS3 wasn't overly happy. I told him there were boys and girls who had no toys and he volunteered a few bits..... I told him there wasn't enough room for any new toys from Father Christmas and he gave up loads!