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to think I am not to blame

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coolcookie · 17/04/2014 22:11

for dd wanting me not him
dd wasn't planned. (d)h did very little to help In the 1st year
As As result I co slept to avoid dh telling our nb to stfu so I an still breastfeeding.
I am now at 18 months getting mil saying you don't need that (breastfeeding) and dh blaming me breastfeeding for dd needing me not him. aibi

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Mim78 · 17/04/2014 22:13

Yanbu

EverythingIsTicketyBoo · 17/04/2014 22:15

Your 'D'H tells a newborn to stfu Shock that's bloody awful!!

Yanbu to still be breast feeding, and your DD is nbu to think you're her whole world, you are however bvu to change/adapt/justify your parenting to keep him happy, and tell the MIL to bugger off!

MumOfTheMoos · 17/04/2014 22:16

No you're not.

Whether you breast feed or not children often go through phases of wanting one child over the other. My DS(2) is lovely and close to his Dad but some nights he won't have anyone read his story to him but me. My DH is a bit Hmm when that happens but I always tell him it won't be long before he can do no wrong and I'm the one not needed at bedtime. I will say that he has yet to do that!

So, if your DH has not been close then this will take longer.

Whatever the case it is certainly not your fault and certainly not breastfeeding! Well done you for feeding so long!

MumOfTheMoos · 17/04/2014 22:17

Sorry meant to say children go through phases of wanting one patent over the other

OfficerVanHalen · 17/04/2014 22:17

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TheABC · 17/04/2014 22:17

Congratulations on breastfeeding for so long! YANBU.

FWIW, my DH is very hands on and DS still prefers me. The balance will probably change with age.

MumOfTheMoos · 17/04/2014 22:17

Parent even

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coolcookie · 17/04/2014 22:21

it means alot to me as I had no support witg dd1 and stopped at 4 day.
I am proud of my achievement but would stop tomorrow if dd didn't newd it so much.
thank you

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FetchezLaVache · 17/04/2014 22:26

I breastfed DS (now nearly 4) until the age of 3.5. He and I moved out of the marital home when he was 2.9 so he hasn't even lived with his father for well over a year (but stays over two nights a week), and they still have an amazingly strong bond. So BFing has bugger all to do with it, IMO- dads can be hands-on in other ways. And I doubt that the kind of man who'd tell a newborn to STFU is ideal dad material, frankly.

He needs to look to himself...

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