to get so frustrated with SIL?

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DH and his brothers were spoiled rotten by their mother. SIL wasn't, and it was unfair how differently she was treated.

Then she married a man who was also spoiled rotten by his mother. Again, it's unfair how little he does.

But why why why why WHY does she treat her sons in the same way?!!

Because that's all she knows?

It's what she knows.

She knows it's wrong though, I am sure she does :( Drives me mad.

She stood and ironed a 24 year old man's shirt tonight.

I iron stuff for the men in my house.

I'm not a pushover or a doormat.

Poor sil. Just feel sorry for her

my daughter thinks i do everything for her brothers more than her she forgets she is the eldest and i did it all for her first!

your sil is attracted to that kind of manchild leave her to it and leave the door open in case it goes wrong x

My ExHs mum was brought up as one of 11 children, 5 boys, 6 girls. The girls had to do everything for the boys. She brought up her one and only little prince son in exactly the same way.

She didn't really do him any favours, as he expected me to be the same. I am not and never have been. I worked 48 hours a week for most of the time we were married, he worked 37 1/2. To my mind, he had 10 hours worth of housework to do before I even started. He did not see it that way and when he left me for the OW he blamed the fact that I didn't keep the house tidy enough on his leaving rather than his wandering penis.

She's not doing the kids either favour. She's failing to prepare her sons with basic life skills/routines and any daughters will feel second rate.

My mum was treated the same way as your SIL and never showed any preference towards any particular child, we were all treated the same regardless of gender.