My sister and a litany of events that are now really aggravating AIBU or..

[lolaisafuckertoo]

has she simply irritated the shit out of me so much that I am enraged by her every move.O
This goes back to January. I was admitted to a psych ward as I was very very unwell. The day following my release, she Skypes me and tells me off about being mentally unwell..it is not good for my daughters. SHe also informs me my eldest (21) is in councelling BECAUSE of my bi-polar
condition.
We fly back to UK for visiti at mid term. ON the last day of our trip, Sis decideds to takes my youngest dd (6) from 10am till 5pm, for birthday celebration...we are not invited as she is not in the form for having people around. She keeps dd tillnearly 7pm. we have an early flight the following day....total nightmare. No one calls to say have a good trip etc.
She emails me details of a place she wants to book for eldest dd's graduation. I decline her offer.
Tomorrow is dd(6) birthday. Today Sis has a clutch of pics up on Facebook from them having cake in Februrary, big happy and so on.

I do not know what the fuck she is doing. I want to fucking kill her. HOw bold a message do I have to send her. I want to tell her not to Skype.

I think your reaction to some of these events sounds very extreme. I don't see anything wrong with her posting pictures of her early birthday celebrations with your dd. Nor do I see anything wrong with her emailing you with details of a possible venue for your older dd's graduation - you were at liberty to turn her down, and did so.

Returning your dd late was thoughtless and no doubt annoying but not one which would warrant "I want to fucking kill her".

However, her behaviour to you when you came out of hospital was horrible and completely unsupportive and I'm not surprised you were upset with her.

I think you need to take a step back and dis-engage until you feel calmer. You do not need to answer her skype calls.

She sounds like an insensitive knobber but maybe she is genuinely concerned about your DD's wellbeing? Perhaps this is someone who doesn't really understand mental health issues who thinks in a misguided way that she is being supportive?

A firm, NO THANK YOU when she wants to act as a Mum in important matters and ignore FB, its not relevant to a 6 yr old! You don't have to Skype with her, its not the law!

Does she have any redeeming qualities?

Littlefish she has done this sort of excluding in the past with both my daughters. Organise a birthday lunch for one of my children but somehow manage it that me and my DH aren't there. Once she simply told us the wrong place.....
Queen there is that sense that she wants to step in and be a mother figure or somehow let the wider world see her as being this super wonderful thoughtful aunty. I wish she would just stop and back off. I feel very ruffled by it. Is this a territorial thing? Has she mad an incursion

I think that being case Lola (and it is easy for me to say I know) then sod how she wants to be seen by the wider world! Super aunt on FB? who gives a feck.
In real life you can tackle it

birthday lunch? Yes please, I will bring the girls to the place or no chance.
Graduation? Oh I will arrange something, you will get an invite when its sorted.
Commenting on your mental health, swift punch in the nose, I hope that your unsupportive attitude comes from a place of concern but we are dealing with it as a family very well. No need for you to worry.

Perhaps you are understandably sensitive as you have had a very tough time and wonder what that must look like to the world, but your girls and family know that you are the only Mum, a good one at that - that's all that matters

Either block her on skype or change your status to invisible. The telling you off is not on, cant comment on your dds counselling, dont see the problem with fb pics, keeping your dd later than planned is annoying, but you dont know if it was deliberate. I think your feelings towards her are colouring your interpretation of events. Is she just one of those people who rubs you up the wrong way?