To think it's just rude to keep going on about how busy you are, ALL the time?

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My friend is one of those people who always has to tell me how busy she is, every time I see her. We have DC at the same school, and if I see her at drop off or pick up and ask her how she is she'll always say "Busy". If I suggest meeting up she can never say a yes or a no straightaway because she's apparently so very busy, and it takes days of to-ing and fro-ing with texts to get something arranged.

Final straw for me is that I sent her a text on Friday asking how she was and if her youngest child would like to come round to play on Thursday (tomorrow). I got a reply on Sunday saying "Too busy to send proper reply at the moment, will reply when I get a chance". Grrrr. I would have left it but my youngest child wants her child to come round so I sent another text last night just asking if he does want to come round and that I hope she is ok and got another reply this morning "Sorry, still busy. Will try to reply later".

She has two children, she doesn't work, doesn't do any volunteering or anything like that, and yet she is apparently always so very busy. She is the same with everyone as far as I know.

AIBU to think she is bloody rude, and to not bother with her again?

Yes she's bloody rude and dismissive.

Give up. Find nicer more sensible friends.

Yes, those replies are rather rude.

I wonder if she is struggling at the moment. Life can be hard no matter what demands a person has.

That's pretty pathetic, she could have texted a simple yes or no if she was too busy, she found time to reply!

Find other friends?

She could just be one of those people who can't cope with everyday life very well?

Yes it's rude. Can you find some more friends that are not too busy to include you in their life?

I think it's more a case of that she likes to feel superior to others and let them know that she is busier than them. I have known her for about 7 years and she has always been like this.

If she has got time to send that then she is not too busy. Personally I would rather have a simple no thanks than that. Either stop inviting her or the next time you get a response like that then don't wait for her to get back to you, just arrange something else.

Not only rude, but BORING.

Reply with my late MIL's remark:

"Never mind, busy hands are happy hands."

Probably one of the most irritating things I've ever heard

Doesn't work!! she has got time to answer a text then! I sometimes feel guilty for taking a couple of days to get back to people but I work ft and often get home late and exhausted. I manage to text properly the next day though.

If she can text to say she's too busy to reply she can text a yes or no. It's rude of her yes. Don't bother asking again. It's sad cos it's her dc who will miss out from her behaviour if she's always too busy to let them play with their friends x

Is it that she likes to keep her options open, in case of a better offer? if so, I hate people like that.

Yes, I think that she likes to keep her options open.

Such a rude cow, I'm not going to bother with her again.

Friend of mine does that. Email/ text every so often, just to tell me 'soooooo busy', okaaaaaay. I just think 'whatever'. Most people are busy, in fact the busiest people I've come across are the ones least likely to go on about being soooooooo busy.

I would have responded with 'A simple yes or no would have been much quicker than typing that. So we will take it as a 'no'.

I agree if she can send a load of waffle about being too busy to reply, she can f..ing reply!

A simple "yes that would be lovely" or "sorry we're sooooo busy" would be quicker to send than her message.

She's messing you about, don't bother with her.

She's a tit.

Good to see you're going to ignore her in future.

Why are some people such arses?

A friend of mine is fast becoming like this. It's annoying and makes me feel a bit sad, as I really enjoyed her company, and our DC get on really well. The thing is, what she counts as horrifically busy, I count as normal daily life.

I agree that people who really are busy are never the ones always banging on about it. At my former workplace the ones who always moaned about being soooo busy always seemed to find time for a skive in the kitchen. It was utter bollocks. I don't have friends like this. Thank God!

Massively irritating, especially when she's the mum of your DDs very best friend and you have no choice, but to deal with her.

My other DF who can never say yes or no straight off just tends to be in a bit of a stressy muddle at all times. I forgive her it's the way she's made.