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Original poster

To not want to take my 3 month old to visit family after vaccinations?

28 replies

pigluscious · 15/04/2014 21:13

DD is having her second set of jabs tomorrow. We're meant to be staying with family for easter weekend, and it will involve lots of visiting of various relatives. My mother in law will just have come back from a school trip over seas. I'm worried that my DD's immune system is going to be compromised already, and that being passed around lots of different people is going to make her get sick, or that she'll have a reaction and away from home. AIBU? I'm not sure whether that's paranoid thinking or whether it makes perfect sense!

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Tuckingfypo · 15/04/2014 21:17

My first thought was maybe you were being a little bit paranoid BUT if you are not comfortable with the situation then no one should force you to go or make you feel guilty. 3 months is still very little and if you want to stay at home, then for your peace of mind stay at home!

LizzieMint · 15/04/2014 21:17

Vaccinations won't compromise her immune system, but might make her feel a bit grotty.

I can't remember what the second set of vaccinations are now, but I remember the only problem we had afterwards was a sore and swollen leg for my oldest daugher. How did your DD react to the first set of vaccinations?

CrohnicallyChanging · 15/04/2014 21:21

My daughter had exactly the same reaction to her second (and third) sets of jabs as she did to the first- excessive sleepiness followed by constant screaming when she woke- and would only be settled by calpol and walking round with her in the sling.

However, every time the reaction was in the hours after the jabs, not days later. So if she was going to have a reaction I think you'd know before you left.

wheresthelight · 15/04/2014 21:22

I think yab a little bit u - as has been said above, the jabs won't compromise anything but may possibly make her a bit grumpy (although my dd was right as rain).

The concern about a reaction is understandable but in all honesty if she is going to react it will be within the first 24hr so assuming you are going away Friday then she should be fine

But if you aren't happy then don't go! She is your baby and I am sure people will understand. Can people come to you maybe?

Original poster
pigluscious · 15/04/2014 21:22

She was fine after the first set, but I've read that the second set an be worse due to antibodies already being present. I thought vaccinations meant they were a little compromised as they're immune systems are already working hard to deal with the jabs?

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Scrounger · 15/04/2014 21:29

Maybe see how she is, if she isn't feeling very well or is a bit grumpy then don't go. You don't need to decide right now.

PumpkinPie2013 · 15/04/2014 21:39

I'd just see how she is - she may well be fine.

My ds was fine after all of his.

Alibabaandthe40nappies · 15/04/2014 21:42

YABU and precious.

It does sound as if you are using your DD to get out of doing something that you don't want to do, which is a bit lame.

My DCs slept a bit more for 24 hours after some of their jabs, others they were totally unaffected.

PansOnFire · 15/04/2014 21:44

YANBU in wanting to keep your DD safe. See how she is after the jabs, most babies are fine but a bit tetchy and fussy for a few days after. Any reactions will be in the hours afterwards (and very rare). See how she goes, my DS was fine the next day.

Original poster
pigluscious · 15/04/2014 21:47

I suspected I was being unreasonable, my
Main worry is about her chances of catching something being higher due to the vaccinations! I really want to go but don't want to be panicking all weekend about my PFB getting sick (I'm a v anxious mother!)

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BrokenToeOuch · 15/04/2014 21:48

All of mine were a bit grizzly in the evening after their first few jabs, and I wouldn't particularly have wanted to be away from home on the first night as they were grumpy meaning I would have been a bit grumpy and tetchy too! However, if she has them tomorrow, she should be back on form again by the weekend, so I'd probably say she'll be okay by then.

Kundry · 15/04/2014 22:06

Vaccinations won't make her any more likely to catch something just after she's had them. It's just not how your immune system works.

If you don't want to go don't, but don't do it because of the vaccinations.

JuniperHeartwand · 15/04/2014 22:09

YABU - that's not how the body responds to vaccinations. I wish people would pay attention in GCSE biology or have they stopped teaching this shit?

rallytog1 · 15/04/2014 22:10

Tbh it sounds like you just don't want to go. The vaccinations provide you with a handy excuse as to why. Maybe you should just be honest with yourself and your family, and say you don't want to go?

WelshMaenad · 15/04/2014 22:25

I don't necessarily think your logic adds up, but I don't want to tell you you are BU as I think everyone's entitled to be a bit anxious and PFB about something!

Go on your visits, relax and try to enjoy, she won't catch the dreaded lurky. Take some sachets of calpol and you'll be fine.

Alibabaandthe40nappies · 16/04/2014 00:01

That is not how vaccinations work - she will be no more likely to catch something the week after her vaccinations than the week before.

I sympathise with the anxiety, I am on medication for mine - but please where possible find out the facts before you get yourself upset about something and restrict your life unnecessarily.

ElseaStars · 16/04/2014 00:07

Your DD might be sleepy or grotty but I don't think it would really affect her health in the way you are thinking.

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pigluscious · 16/04/2014 08:53

Thanks all! I really hoped I was being unreasonable! Is it also unreasonable to worry about my MIL carrying germs back from a school trip abroad?

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ShoeWhore · 16/04/2014 08:57

I think you are less likely to get a reaction 2nd time tbh.

If you don't want to go then you don't want to go but I wouldn't worry from a vaccination point of view.

Alibabaandthe40nappies · 16/04/2014 09:00

Personally it wouldn't worry me - children are actually pretty resilient and they come into contact with all sorts.

Do you avoid baby groups if someone who goes has been on holiday?

The best way for your baby to have a healthy immune system is to come into contact with lots of different germs and build up immunity. Yes they will get some colds and viruses, but you can't avoid that unless you all live in a hermetically sealed box and have everything decontaminated at the door :)

SweetSilverSongOfALark · 16/04/2014 09:06

Yes, you are BU about your MIL bringing back germs. I mean, yes, it can happen and nothing is totally risk free. But human bodies are designed to fight infections picked up anywhere and at any time. The vaccinations are adding to this protection, not taking anything away.

Maria33 · 16/04/2014 09:11

YABU -sounds like you're using your daughter's vaccinations to get out of a weekend of relative visits. Grin Fair play but you will sound a bit precious giving this as a reason...

Legologgo · 16/04/2014 09:12

Yabu. Totally.

Legologgo · 16/04/2014 09:13

Stop being anxious. You'll make your kid drippy

Maria33 · 16/04/2014 09:17

Sorry OP misread 3 months for 3 years. Just don't go if you're not up to it. You don't need an excuse to stay home and not go traipsing round with a three month old. Stay home and veg out if that's what you want to do. Visiting relatives with a 3 month old in tow is a PITA especially if they're going to be tetchy after vaccinations.

YANBU