AIBU t be really pissed off with my partner?

[Caff2]

Tiny bit of background: I recently lost my job (career ebder of a situation) and have had a health visitor referral for my toddler as I presented with anxiety at the doctor during the tough work bit. All not better practically, but much better emotionally, health visitor visit went well.

My ds2 (the toddler) had a bit of an eye infection this morning, I didn't think much of it but my partner was worried. So he took him to the doctor today with it. Doctor said it was nothing to worry about, so my partner, for God knows what reason said "Oh, I thought not, but his mum is a worrier!"

I was not worried. He was. He insisted on appointment.

Now health visitor has phoned wanting another appointment to discuss my unnecessary anxiety.

I am furious with him. Apparently, when the doctor said it was nothing to worry about, my partner was embarrassed, so said I was worried!!

Yanbu to be pissed off, tell the hv the truth - or get your dp to own up to his embarrassment.

Y so nbu! I'd make your partner be present when the hv visits and let him tell her the truth about who insisted on the appointment.

HV wants to come 30th April - I want to change the apt to earlier so he can be here too to explain himself.

I really don't understand why you have a HV appointment!

I have a long documented MH issue, lots of anxiety, see a therapist. Always taking DD to the doc with colds etc 'just in case' it's not!

I've never had to 'justify' my anxiety to the HV. The GP always makes a point of saying 'she's fine, nothing to worry about. How are you coping?' or something similar.

I'd be very pissed at my DH is he's done that!

Surely "nothing to worry about" means that it isn't serious, not that it was wrong to take the child in?

Tell the HV not to waste their time-or get husband to!

But so what if you were concerned-better to be safe than sorry with a child?

Sure the hv appt is related to your anxiety issues?

I have quite severe anxiety. Never once have I had to explain myself to a HV, we don't even get 1 year checks around here!

I would just refuse the appointment in your position.

To be honest I don't think you should feel defensive or need to justify what happened. Like diddl said, so what if you had been worried. My doctors have always said that they never worry or think it's a waste of time to see a child even if it turns out to be nothing. I'd just "thank" the hv for her support but that you weren't overly worried, and that there seems to be a communication problem. Tell her you'll contact her if you feel anxious. I know you're upset, but even if you HAD been worried it's a pretty normal reaction and not one to get defensive about.
I'm sure your dh had no idea that what he said would trigger a visit. I would just be very relaxed with the hv, offer a cup of tea and really let her see for herself that you're ok.

Thanks for advice I'm less cross now!

Caff2!!! Guess whoooo!!!!

Don't worry about HV! Does seem strange though, my HV came about three times ever. Surely he was quit old already when the stressy work stuff started? As in, old enough to not have visits etc?!