We would like to have a really small christening for DD. Just us, PIL and godparents. We could go to a really nice restaurant near us afterwards and it would be quite relaxing.
For DS we invited our siblings (plus children, also my mum but she died last year). I spent the entire time running around getting people food & drinks. Really I just wanted to cuddle DS and enjoy the moment.
My sisters (we are not blood siblings but were raised together) are very unsupportive, the main comment at DS's was that it was a shop bought cake (the horrors!). Also a few issues with them but that's a whole other thread (very insensitive and generally nosey and pushy i.e. invite themselves to places/events, I know it sounds petty but it drives me mad. On a non petty note they also bring up very personal information from my childhood which is quite upsetting for me).
I think they also think they are going to be asked to be godparents….
They keep asking when the christening would be.
I have 3 choices:
1 - invite everyone and just put up with it for 1 afternoon
2 - tell them we are having a very small event and not inviting everyone (they we would be fuming and hurt, I don't really want to hurt their feelings despite our differences. I am closer to one sister and consider her a sister, the other not so much and she wouldn't call me her sister either - it's complicated!).
3 - don't tell them. Meaning I would have to lie and pretend we weren't having one.
Thought of a 4th - say we had as part of the normal church service and didn't invite anyone apart from godparents as wanted something smaller.
Gah - I hate family politics
DH's sisters wouldn't be upset if they weren't invited.
Thanks for reading if you got this far!