To not want to speak to my dp

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I'm being unreasonable. I know I am. But he is driving me insane.

Suffering from the teachers curse of developing a cold as soon as half term starts.

That's fine.

It's the WHINING. Give me strength you'd think he was dying of bubonic plague.

I'm going to have put up with this all week after work.

I want to go out and return only when he has recovered.

Before anybody asks, no I have never considered going into nursing

He's feeling "much better" today. That's good as I am indeed off out.

If I have boys I will teach them at a young age not to be fucking whiners a bit dramatic like their dad.

Ain't man flu. It's teacher flu....

(Waits for explosion of judgy ness....!)

:)

Half term? Where do you live? School holidays round here.

Sunny

Well, it is...he's never ill except at the start of the holidays. Body rests and boom ill. It's amazing teachers aren't ill more often, given the germs they must come into contact with daily.

I used to get "retail" flu over Christmas every single year after working god knows how many hours and 8 days (given a day in lieu to take later on) on the trot. It was not the best.

Nenny

Half term school holidays. Live in Wales.

I think when you work in a school you run on adrenaline during term time regardless of what's going on.

Last year I managed to plough on through a fluey cold (worse than a cold but not quite flu), shingles (under cover so not a health risk) and what turned out after the event to be a milder recurrence of the whooping cough that collapsed one of my lungs as a child. Disclaimer: I am support staff so able to avoid direct contact with the kids if needs be

As for summer term stress levels... every year I think it'll be different/under control and every year I'm proved wrong. Heading into my fifth one next week.

I've already booked a weeks annual leave for the week before DH & DD break up .

Mine came to bed @ 4am after a nightshift, hugging a hot water bottle & shivering loudly (as in, brr brr brr, oh it's sssssooooo cccccold bbbrrrrr)

This morning he got up & fetched the thermometer, declared he had a temperature & a red throat.

He diagnosed himself with tonsillitis.

His mother reminded him this afternoon that he'd had his tonsils out when he was 10

Eva

DH had a cold this weekend. What gets me is the fact that he seems so concerned about all his symptoms. 'I have a headache. And a reeeeally sore throat. And my nose is blocked.' You've got a cold. 'But I feel really bad! And I'm a bit achey too.' Yep.... Still just a cold. Three days later he remarks in wonder and concern that he is still not completely symptom-free. Yep... That's pretty normal too, dear.

I blame MIL partly. She acts like he's about to die if he gets anything at all and is constantly saying he looks 'yellow'.

Saying he looks "yellow" - are you married to Homer Simpson?

DH feels the need to follow me around the house giving me updates on his symptoms "I still have a temperature" I still don't care, "My nose is stuffed" yes I know I can see the trail of snotty tissues, unfortunately he's never had laryngitis.
DS on the other is the perfect sick male.........he takes to his bed and bedroom and only comes out when he's feeling better :) :) :)

Eva I think she means pale. Which usually just means tired. She's a bit weird...

DH has got man flu at the moment too, driving me nuts.

It is selective when it strikes him.

Time to fart about on the drive polishing bits of his car? Man-flu in retreat.

Time to do boring laundry/child related tasks? Man-flu at full strength and he can't possibly...

Annoys me all the more because when he is healthy he pulls his weight around the house and does his share of child-rearing/cooking etc.

The reason I'm still up is that I can hear him flumping around upstairs re-arranging pillows, getting in and out of bed. I could cheerfully stab him at times like this

Mine does the "competitive illness" thing. I simply cannot be unwell without him immediately being so much 'iller'! It's become a bit of a joke (well, in my head anyway). I am sorry if he genuinely feels bad, but it makes me smile when, shortly after I get poorly, (hormonal migraine, ropey neck/back for example) he starts talking about how very rough he feels and we have the sighing & plaintive little moans.... God forbid I should warrant any attention of my own!!
I have now had some sort of virus for about 6 weeks - wtg on blood tests at the mo.. I think he's had bubonic plague twice in that time, and yesterday he decided he now has flu.

Oh and I'm about to get up for work & he'll probably "take the day off to keep warm" i.e. Duvet & ipad....

My ex husband left at Christmas - this is now some 4 months ago.

Last week I got a Whatsapp notification that turned out to be a list of his terrible and concerning symptoms, what appeared to be a live typealong as he performed his second Dr Google examination (he is his own first, second and third opinion) and a passive plea for some wifely comfort and the soothing balm of him, maybe if it's easier, coming to my house to be looked after - because he doesn't know anyone so good at making people feel better. Honestly he thought the common cold was stronger than divorce courts and would overcome such trivialities as fucking off and not seeing the children for 10 weeks.

Luckily I really, really enjoyed giving my diagnosis - a severe case of taking the piss, characterised by the onset of a brass neck - and telling him if a divorce didn'tfree me of being his personal plague doctor because he was so ill the only choice was to put him down as a final act of kindness.

I know this sounds like one upmanship of my own but at least your poorly DH is actually your DH. YANBU, but you just clearly don't understand how bad it is which isn't your fault.