is this fair?

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Just wanted an outsiders perspective on this. Split up with husband about three months ago. Rocky relationship for years but always thought it would get better or we could fix it. Sadly that wasnt to be. We barely spoke to each other, slept i different rooms and I usually ended up upstairs to keep the peace. I refused to argue i front of our daughter. Anyway I left he wouldnt and I think he thought I would never go.
I ve had to rent privately we co-own our house. He stayed I have helped out with the mortgage where I could (I cant afford to but have done in case he defaulted) I paid some last month towards it then I found out he had booked a holiday!!
We have someone lined up to rent it out (hopefully) this will ease things. He is planning to stay at his mothers all fine however he has said he wont pay me anything towards our daughter as he has her two nights a week. Sometimes his mother has her once in the week. He claims that he has her as much as me and i get the tax credits and child benefit so basically I can whistle for any more. Now I am not greedy and would not request a ridiculous amount but surely this isnt fair?? He totally blames me for the split and states I have ripped his daughter away from him. What would you do?
Thanks in advance.

He doesn't get to chose not to support his child. See a solicitor.

I'm sure you have rights or at least can look into maintenance allowance... I'm no expert but I don't think it's fair despite who broke up with who like u said if u were being unreasonable that would be different but you r not...best to get legal advice

Go through the CSA - he will have to deal with them, and you can just let it go.

go through the CSA tell them you have to for tax credit purposes its a lie but it stops most arguments surprisingly

He needs to pay for his child, but how he does that is up to a court or the CSA to decide if reaching an agreement between you won't work.

What has made you decide to rent out the house rather than sell it?

Tell him you'll be whistling down to the CSA if that's his attitude.

No, he is not being fair.

He is being childish and bitter and selfish.

How you manage to keep your cool in front of him is any body's guess because this attitude from some men that they don't need to pay because blah blah blah makes my blood boil.

Your ex's reasons are particularly feeble in this case anyway.

What annoys me more than anything is that he probably sees it as he doesn't want to give YOU an extra penny that he can get away with, but it is money for his child and her needs ffs. He is using his child as a means of getting back at you.