My 19 year old's bedroom is a pigsty

[Loreleyjynx]

Hi everyone
I would just like some advice and suggestions please.
My 19 year old son's bedroom has always been a pigsty. I came to the point in my last house that I just would not go in there anymore.
However, I have just rented a lovely house and really like to keep it clean and tidy. I'm not a fastidious nutcase or anything.
My 19 year old son works, leaving the house at midday and coming in at midnight during the week. He stays up til 4 or 5 on his PS4 and doesn't get up until 10 minutes before he leaves for work. His room is a hovel. He leaves food everywhere, litter and dirty clothes over the floor, used condoms next to his bed on the floor. It really is disgusting.
I gave it a thorough clean today, but I am so tired of him ignoring me when ask him to just keep it tidy.
I am going away to a friend's wedding next weekend and I am so scared that he will have loads of mates round and trash the place.
He won't look after himself either. He lives on junk food and won't eat the meals which I save for him in the fridge. He is covered in really bad eczema and can't be bothered to get up early enough to go to the docs and get some steroid cream to sort it out. It's all over his face and his hands are cracked and bleeding.
I would really appreciate some help please girls!
Loreleyjynx

I'd be bloody asking him to leave.
How disgusting, and downright disrespectful.

Hey thanks everyone for your advice. The used condom thing only happened once in the last house and I did tell him that it was totally unacceptable and he hasn't done that particular thing since. I found it very constructive reading your comments. To be honest, it made me feel better in that it gave me a clearer perspective on my problem. The general feeling seems to be either ignore it or kick him out. Well, I can't ignore it and I had a serious talk with him tonight and said that I can't have him living like that in my home anymore. I said that if he doesn't keep his room at least tidy, then he will have to find a house share. I said that I would help him to find somewhere if it did come to that. He seemed to take it on board, but I guess time will tell. He does pay towards the rent and council tax.

I suppose that I am influenced by the fact that only a year ago he was going through a bout of depression and just couldn't get motivated for quite a while (staying in bed til the afternoon etc).

It's so difficult. I know that he is an adult now but as a Mom, it's not easy to see him lose weight, have bad skin etc.

Well thanks again everyone for taking the time to post a reply. It really has helped me tonight. :)

Sounds like you love him, despite his 'flaws'.

Good for you!