DH huffs at any little comment....

[Sickandtired14]

Ok, I'm 18 weeks preg, have a 20 month old who is teething a lot right now (just cut a molar and I can see a cuspid coming) so not sleeping great. I went to see my dad today - this entails driving there and back, a walk round to feed the ducks, running around after DD etc. It was an enjoyable day and I did CHOOSE to go. Anyway, DH decided he would take the day off work to 'relax' and 'rest' and sort out job applications as he is changing careers. At 4pm I rang to say we were on way home. At 5pm we arrived home. Tired. And needing to get DD's dinner going.
He had decided to clean - great! - except that meant I now had only our bedroom to be in with a very unhappy, hungry dd when what I wanted to do was make dinner and relax. It doesn't sound like a big deal but he does this EVERY time I go anywhere for the day. Takes an unpaid day off - yet we can't do things I want to do cos we 'need to save money' and then decides to clean 10 mins before I arrive home.

So when he said I had to entertain dd in the bedroom til he was finished I said 'really? In tired. Why do you always start cleaning JUST before we get home when you've been home all day?'

He is sulking. Says it wasn't fair of me to 'have a go at him' and 'someone' has to do the housework (I do all the cooking, washing, drying, washing up and clean the floors every day)

was unreasonable to have said that??

If I take my dc's over to mums for the day and my dh is off he would spend an hour maybe 2 cleaning and then he would spend the rest of the time on the computer playing games. So when I get home the house is clean and he's relaxed and will happily cook us dinner
My dh is also changing careers and he doesn't take a day off to "go through applications"

Your dh is really weird, why make you stay in one room when you were clearly both hungry and tired and why did you agree and not just take your dd out for dinner? It's all a bit strange actually.
Perhaps he's not been doing any work though and been playing online games all day and panicked when you got in so wanted to blitz the house because he felt guilty? Thus projecting his guilt on to you.

Apart from the likelihood of his having done very little all day, I see the cleaning in the same sprit of the kind of man, and sorry, it is usually a man, who a rarely cooks and then when he does, uses every pan in the house and turns the kitchen upside down.

Basically he's done fuck all all day and is making a big show of how brilliant and thorough he is, and how slothenly you are ( because obviously as it's your job the cleanung it should have been done before)

rather than congratulating him, you've seen through the act and he is pissed off. Ignore him, just get on with your day