So the proverbial has just hit the fan. Mil has called me a waste of space in front of my dd. (D) h agreed and is in the process of being shown the door. He didn't deny it but just went on attack again.
Of course she clearly thinks that I sit on my arse all day and than expect dh to do stuff in the evening.
The reality is that we have 3dc 10, 8 and 12months.
He does nothing in the evening except prepare his own food. Leaving mess for me to clear up. He never does bedtime. So I do bedtime and than have to clean up kitchin in morning.
Weekends he cooks maybe 1 meal and does garden but very little else.
He has been rubbish at emotional support following 3 bereavements in 10 months including my mum.
He has twice said that dd should be aborted. And called her a f*ing brat he never wanted. She wasn't planned.
I have do all nights with dd. Fine as ebf but he doesn't even let me have a lie in at the weekend. One night I wa up with baby and 8 year old. He just shut bedroom door to block out noise. Tbf he was much better with other two but I am just feeling so bitter.
I am self employed too but only manage to do maybe 10 hours per month.
Aibu