Hubby, hubbie, other half etc

[SnookyPooky]

Sorry but these make me so angry.
I can't read a thread with them in it.
That's all......

I never used to mind any of those words, until someone I knew began calling her partner 'hubba'.

It always makes me think of the chewing gum, and yes, it grates. A lot!!

OP, you are aware you're talking about your hatred of twee nicknames when your nom-de-plume is SnookyPooky?! Is that what your hubby calls you?

@ Uri

Snort at Uri, no it's the name of one of my cats!
I don't mind DH at all, I think hubster is probably the worst along with buns, bubba, bump etc.

*bubs not buns, bloody autocorrect.....

The sperminator?
My piece of ass?
Sweet cheeks?
The one with the penis?

I tend to stick with XDH. It's not technically correct as he's not legally X but there seems little need to go into forensic detail when making a throw-away comment, to strangers, about onion gravy.

I hate "dh" "ds" etc. Beyond twee.

how did you not block them... urrrrrrrrg

What should I call my OH of 10yrs then?... We have 2 kids, a house and a dog. We live like a married couple bur aren't married. We call eachother husband/wife when referring to each other to strangers. I don't like boyfriend as I sound like a teen. Don't like partner as I sound like a lesbian, don't like otherhalf as we are both whole.... What do you suggest?

forgettable who? Who? Who says it? Why? Well I don't care and I won't get over it. Said nicely

Oh my bad. You see, when folk say yeuck, Manshape, and only one poster on here uses Manshape, it looks like that poster is being picked on. Which ain't very nice. Apologies, it seems not to be your intent. Said nicely.

I also hate it when people refer to their partners as their husband/wife when they are not married. If you are not married they are NOT your husband or wife. It is as simple as that, black and white. It is factually incorrect to call someone you are not married to your husband or wife.

A relationship is an emotional state, marriage is emotional but also a legal status. If you want to use the special label afforded to those who commit, then get married!!

really... OH and I are very committed to each other. Buying a house and having kids together will prove that more than marriage any day.... But I haven't found suitable alternatives for us!

Ok, so I'm being very black and white in this but I don't think you can correctly call him your husband when he isn't.

And I'm not trying to belittle the commitment you have, you clearly do have commitment but why not legally commit. The terms husband/wife go with being legally committed, which to me (I accept not to all) is the ultimate commitment.

None of it bothers me in the slightest.

I use hubby, hubs, hubster, husband, old fart, farty bum, arsehole, fish face and others (many of them in jest, of course ). That is just what we are like here.

Best not to call someone your husband / wife if you are not legally married though, I guess.

DP and I aren't married but I do sometimes refer to him as 'hubby' as it sums up our relationship well - boyfriend / girlfriend doesn't seem right when we are 30s/40s.

His mum introduces me to her friends as her daughter in law - it sums up our relationship well.

It also stops the questions such as 'do you live together' etc that I would get over and over if we used terms like 'oh she's my son's girlfriend'.

Forgettable Honestly, why would anyone come on a thread about names for husbands and poke fun at one particular poster..? Who isn't even on the thread you sound very paranoid.

really, I agree with you, and polarn, you wouldn't sound like a lesbian just by saying 'partner'. Not that that should really be an issue. If he isn't your husband, he isn't your husband. Not aware I have ever come across people calling their partners 'wife' or 'husband' when they are not, but maybe I have without realising.
Find this interesting, as I kind of have the opposite problem. I am a woman who has been in a civil partnership for nearly 8yrs. We have always referred to our 'partner' when discussing each other to others, but others refer to my partner as my 'wife'. This just sounds a bit odd to me, but it is nice that others feel it okay. Equally, 'partner' has never felt enough, as she was my partner before the CP too and as far as I am concerned, we are married. Not looking to hijack, but open to suggestions!

really We will get married eventually, but life just seems to be getting in the way! So we may as well call each other husband/wife. Like afterthought... My OH's mother calls me the daughter-in-law. I call her the MIL to people. It's just easier.

I did once get asked if I was gay when I said partner. Obviously nothing wrong with being gay, but I'm not so had to explain (that was just a one off but since then I've not used partner to refer to OH). If I say husband, it doesn't provoke any questions like "why aren't you married?" "Shouldn't you have tied the knot by now?" blah blah blah!

polarn, with me, when I say 'partner', people always assume that partner is male.

Also haven't had 'why aren't you married' questions etc.

As another unmarried, I'm not a huge fan of 'partner' as to some people it does have other implications, not that I care if they think I am referring to a woman rather than a man, just you sometimes end it up in a conversation about it down the road where they start questioning why you aren't married blah blah.

Sometimes I say 'other half', though I don't like that much. Occasionally I say 'husband' if it is a conversation with someone I'm barely going to see again and I just take the shortcut, though again I don't really like doing that.

But I'll be buggered if I'm saying 'boyfriend' thirteen years and one DC in, in my mid-thirties!

Are you male or female catsize?....

I guess it was just a one off.

I hate the why aren't you married questions. Mind your own fucking business!.... If I say boyfried I feel like my relationship doesn't come across as important as if I say husband, ironic as my non-married relationship has out lived 2 of my friend's marriages.

Lol at "Bill Husby", I'm totally using that.

Can I put in a late vote for My Lord And Master?

Female polarn. To say 'civil partner' would suggest I have a less civilised one too. 'partner' doesn't seem enough and 'wife' will be seen as me trying to provoke a reaction perhaps and just seems a bit odd modern. Others use it though. As I say, open to suggestions.