To not want to go on this trip while pregnant?

[DemonsInMyHead]

School trip, 5 adults (1 staff, rest volunteers), 35 kids (secondary age). First aider needed on the coach. I am first aid trained and have been asked to go. I'd be in overall charge of everything. I will be 33 weeks pregnant.

AIBU to refuse to go? I know it's unlikely the baby would come then but I am already uncomfortable and working almost 24/7 for three days will pretty much do me in I think, and if I have any pregnancy issues they'd be left without a first aider anyway. There are other first aid trained staff but not that deal with the kids with the same frequency / have the same experience (though the volunteers do have that, just not the first aid).

Thanks everyone - I will put my foot down! MW doesn't think it's a good idea either. Yes, it is a disorganised school and I'll be going back for the minimum after mat leave (but that's another story).

Thebody that's awful - I hope your DD is okay.

Good call op. dd doing ok. You stand your ground.

I've been on residentials with 11 year olds, and I agree with thebody. It isn't only about your welfare and committment, it's about the safety of the children on the trip. Definitely don't go.

I'm 33 weeks pregnant, fit and healthy with it but I couldn't guarantee that I could run anywhere fast, lift anything heavy (like a child) or even easily bend down to a person on the floor.

I could do a plaster. Don't go, unfair to yourself and the kids.

Sorry, yes it does say school in the OP - I was so dumbfounded by the carefree approach to risk that my brain didn't process that information.

Please do put your foot down. I would hate to be the sole member of staff on this trip, and I would not be happy about my children going on it. If any child ia taken ill and needs medical care, either a volunteer deals with it or the entire group is left without a staff member.

Can't believe you are the only first aid trained member of staff at your school no matter how disorganised they are. And they are going to have to train somebody up to replace you when you are off on maternity leave. Unless all the other first aid trained members of staff are 34 or more weeks pregnant then they are being really unreasonable in asking you to contemplate going let alone pressuring you to go.

What reasons are they giving for not asking other members of staff - or what excuses are other staff giving for not going? Is this a trip that you've run previously or that people take turns to do - I'm still wondering why they are still trying to get you to go rather than any other staff member to go?

I'd tell them - rather than ask or suggest - that you are willing to be the first aider on duty in school that day (subject of course to baby not appearing early) but that you are not prepared to go against the advice of your midwife, particularly as you know you would struggle to do this now let alone in a few weeks time. It's not fair that they are asking you to potentially seriously compromise your health or that of your baby (risk of DVD is much higher when pg so long coach trip would not be a good idea for starters, on top of everything else).

And if the trip doesn't get to go because you can't go then don't let them tell you it is your fault that the kids will be let down. It absolutely isn't. You are not the only member of staff - but you are the only one that has a cast iron reason for not going. And remember that if anybody tries to point out that pg is not an illness (seems to be used when people want you, the heavily pg person, to do something), it can make some people be very ill or feel incredibly horribly ill and in those instances the individual should only have to do what they think is in their capability.

Good idea to say no. First pregnancy all going well, but I still would have been tired looking after children all day. Second pregnancy all was going well until I went into labour at 34 weeks, more or less started whilst teaching year 10 in the afternoon out of nowhere!!!

Only you can decide! If you feel well physically then go otherwise speak up, everyone handles pregnancy differently.

I was in charge of a busy A+E, working 12 hour shifts whilst 38 weeks pregnant with my first, when I had my second I was dead on my feet at 35 weeks....