I feel sick

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bongobaby · 08/04/2014 23:51

Sick to the pit of my stomach.I don't regret my ds for one moment just the lying fucking lowlife scum I had ds with.I love my ds with all my heart.
Vehicle theft
Burglary
Dangerous Driving
Driving whilst Disqualified
Possession of Cannabis
Battery x 2 against women
Obstructing police in their duty
Domestic violence
Restraining orders

I have only just come across most of this information, the battery I only found out through the grape vine,some of the domestic violence relates to myself,The rest is through disclosure as we are due in court in regards to him having contact back. Exp has never told me any of this. I'm shocked at the extent of it and came here to rant and be angry. Don't want him anywhere near ds.

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FloraSpreadableMacDonald · 09/04/2014 06:28

I agree...you don't want this man anywhere near you or your child. However, the courts will decide what is appropriate regards your ds. You have to be honest with the authorities regards this information you have found out and especially the dv towards you.
I really hope things work out for you and your son.

AFishCalledBarry · 09/04/2014 06:33

That's quite a list. It was a relief to read he's already your ex. What has your solicitor said about his chances of contact? Was he ever violent towards your DS? I'm fairly certain (and indeed hope) that if the court does award him contact it would have to be supervised.

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bongobaby · 09/04/2014 11:27

He has been emotionally abusive to ds. He is no sort of role model to him and in the past he has encouraged ds to steal from shops to which ds told him no he doesn't want to.

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deakymom · 09/04/2014 13:59

if you can prove he tried to get him to steal it will go better for you xx (i hope he turns out to be a deadbeat runaway dad and you turn out to be a supermom)

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bongobaby · 10/04/2014 20:35

Exp has said that beating his xp up was a minor incident and blown out of proportion today in court whilst losing his temper,raising his voice and interrupting the judge speaking over him.even though he has been convicted of doing it of DV. According to him his convictions for domestic violence and drug conviction isn't relevant to him having contact with ds. Given his long list of offences he really is deluded making me sick with worry as to his state of mind.

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missymarmite · 10/04/2014 21:19

What does your lawyer say? Is it likely he will get contact? If so, perhaps you could agree to visits in a contact centre..

deakymom · 10/04/2014 22:28

do you have to pay for a contact centre?

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